Moving along the slow wedding helpers?

I honestly don't know how you tell people who are throwing you a party (shower/bachelor/bachelorette) to get their act together. Those parties are given, hosted, paid for, and put together by other people. You really can't dictate them. The next time someone mentions that such a party is being planned, you might say something like "it's so great that you're doing that for us. My schedule is so crazy with the two jobs and school. Please let me know when I can help pick a date for the party that will work."

As for your future in-laws: if it's getting urgent to book the preacher's time, just call your FMIL and say, "I was talking to Reverend Jones, and he asked if there was a firm date for the rehearsal yet, as he needs to get his calendar set." If it's not yet urgent for the preacher, then just be a little patient. When it does get to be important, then make the phone call. If she really stalls after you've asked her, then make a second phone call a couple of days later: "I've talked to Reverend Jones again, and he really needs to schedule the rehearsal. I suggested Thursday, September 10. Will that work for you?"

For the rehearsal dinner, we had it immediately after the rehearsal. Ask the minister what time he wants the rehearsal to be and how long it lasts. Then tell your FMIL. That way, she can make reservations at the restaurant (or where ever) for the appropriate time. That's all. No biggie.

Talk on the phone or in person with your MOH and ask if the bachelorette party is on Friday or Saturday (1 week before the wedding) because you need to make sure you ask off of work.

This e-mail and texting for stuff like this is for the birds. Have a real conversation with people.

Rehearsal dinner: what time is the rehearsal scheduled for? You should ask the preacher how long it will take, and what time the dinner should be. Then send the in-laws a note that says "Pastor Brown said the dinner should start at 7PM. Is that OK with you? Can I help with addressing the invitations?"

Don't worry about the showers and parties that you are expecting your friends to throw. If they put it together at a time that you cant make, just tell them that's an impossible time for you. Your wedding will be legal even if the people in your bridal party have not given you the parties that you want. Short answer: you are pushy.

And you are passive. Phone your mother and tell her that your nerves are getting antsy, and that you'll be selecting the liquor yourself so you can quit worrying about it.

There are a few options for what you can do

1. you can hire a wedding planner to take some of the stress of your shoulders, this might be costly but if you have the funds to make it happen I definitely suggest this option.

2. Ask your maid of honor/mother/family friend to help you pull everything together. Some people love to be asked to help out in your pre-wedding/wedding activities, it makes them feel like they're a part of this special time in your life.

3. Move your wedding date back a little farther. Weddings are complicated, stressful and full of details so consequently they take quite some time to plan ESPECIALLY if you're putting all the weight on your own shoulders while you're also going too school and juggling the other pieces of your life.

Do whatever is right for you, and don't take on too much of the planning burden because this will keep you from being able to relax and enjoy this special time.

Best of luck,

S

Invite them all out for coffee to a Planning Meeting or schedule a conference call. Have enough paper, pens and copies of calendar months for all of them.

It may cost you $20 for the coffees but things will get finalized. As this is a 'formal' meeting they will get their act together otherwise they will look and feel embarrassed in front of the others if they appear disorganized and unreliable.

As you will be paying for the coffee or phone call, it won't appear ungrateful or pushy....just organized!

Congratulations

well typically the rehearsal dinner is 2-3 days before the wedding the stag/stagette is 1-2 weeks, the shower is a month before the wedding so you should be having that now.

call your friends and remind them of your stress and that you would like to know so you can make arrangements.

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Why not schedule the wedding for when you actually have time to do all this stuff? Maybe postpone it until you are done with school?

Maybe you and fiance should schedule all this stuff when you actually do have time for it.