How can I train my cat to give me some space?

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My cat is driving my crazy. I went away for 10 days and left her with a friend, and since I arrived home, she will not leave me alone. She must have absolutely constant physical contact, and she is constantly whining and maiowing. 

This isn't the first time I've left for an extended period; I've gone on trips as long as 4 weeks. She has never before diplayed such needy behavior for several DAYS after my return, although she has needed minor reassurance that I love her (lots of playing and cuddling) for about a half day after other trips.  

I've had my cat for 4 years now, She's NEVER been a talker before. She won't let me walk three steps without following me. She jumps up on my lap, into bed with me, and gets agitated if I even shut the bathroom door (bites my feet when I walk out and whines while I'm in there).

Obviously, this last parting was particularly traumatic for her, but she's about to drive me to drink with her neediness.  What can I do to provide her with calming reassurance, but encourage her to go be a disinterested cat sunning on a windowsill or playing in a different room for a change?

cat lover · Accepted Answer

She will get over it.  In the last time away, she probably felt you had abandoned her, and she is confused and worried.

Try interactive play, to help wear her out.

Your cat is four years old.  That means the kitten in her is gone, and she is taking on the behavior of an adult cat.  That could be why the difference this time is so great.

Anonymous · Answer

Toys and things that can keep her occupied without you are probably your only option. Problem with cats is that they're either total loners or the most clingy creatures on the face of the Earth.
In time, she will probably go back to her normal behaviour though, she just needs reassurance that you aren't going to leave her again.

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How can I train my cat to give me some space?

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