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Am I a bad person for abandoning her?

my husband got an akita becuse i wouldnt let him train mine. so i got stuck taking care ofr his badliy trained nuraotic puppy who after our divorce became an uncontollable nurotic dog . when left alone she screamed when left unattnined for a few minutes while i got the mail or chasesed the nieghbors dogs way she would pull out laundry form a basket or open up drawers the get laundry to pee on. She would growl and bark and freak out the whole time my friends were over even after hours of them being there she even snapped at one frined . she had skin problmes and needed expensive food and bi-montly groomings with special shampo's . i dealt with her on my own for a year I am broke no savings nothing I lost my job and had to use my school money (finacail aid )to buy dog food and vet care but the last straw was she began peeing on my bed and sunday night she pee'd on my dogs ashes I cant afford her cant controll her and cant help her so I took her to the aspca. am I a bad person for this ........... Ive never given up on any animal untill her she didnt even like me she wasnt even really mine .... and no my ex couldnt take her hes a marine in okinowa. and the whole year i've had her bye myslef I've been looking for soem oen to take her

Update:

maybe iI wasnt clear I took her to a NO kill shealter ..... I did not just dump her off on a street corner

Update 2:

she wasnt my dog and after my divorce i had not time for any thing i was working two jobs just to feed both othe the akitas mine and my exes my dog was very well trained and had very few issues after the divorce ...... i never wanted her she was forced on me from day one

Update 3:

we are divorced becuse he was abusive to me and the dogs he never asked if i wanted another dog and liek i said i had and akita and he wasvery well trained becuse beofre the divorce i had time for him i was not allowed to do any thins with his dog (who went nuts from his "training")

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago
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    No your not a bad person you tried unlike some people that would not of bothered and he just dumped the dog with you

    well done for trying and you have done the right thing and don't feel bad!

    Aphrodite until you are those shoes dont judge she tried and that should be all that matters!

  • 1 decade ago

    No I don't think that you are a bad person for giving the dog to aspca. Its better for the dog to be given to the aspca then your local animal shelter, who will probably end up euthanizing the dog after sometime. If you can't properly take care of the dog or train the dog yourself, then its better for the aspca to take care of the dog who can find an owner who will train the dog properly and give the dog the love and care it deserves. So no, I wouldn't say that you are wrong or bad in doing so. Most people would probably just leave the dog outside and not take care of it or just dump it somewhere and leave. You did the right thing.

  • 1 decade ago

    You're not a bad person, you're just a bad dog owner (both you and your husband). A lot of people are. Inexperienced dog owners should never get dogs such as Akitas. They needs lots of training, exercise, and should not be "coddled", otherwise they will think they are dominant over you (peeing on the laundry, not accepting of the people you have over).

    You and your ex-husband should have had her professionally trained when you got her. There was still hope for her, but it's too late now. Is the shelter you dropped her off a gassing shelter?

    Source(s): Adopting dogs, working with and fostering rescues.
  • 1 decade ago

    Well you and your husband took her in as a responsibility together, and if he is a marine you would know he would be away for much of the year. Meaning you would be the one training her. Looks like no one bothered to train her at all, judging by the way she was acting, and you never called in a professional trainer to work with her. If she doesn't get put down in the SPCA (unlikely, due to her behavior) then she might get a home where her new owner can deal with her problems.

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  • 1 decade ago

    No i don't think so.

    You gave her to a rescue center where they can re-home her, if you had abandoned her on the streets or hurt her that would make you a bad person but you did the right thing.

    If you couldn't afford her or control her and you didn't really want her it's much better for both you and the dog for her to go to a new home.

    Don't feel guilty.

  • 1 decade ago

    Okay. It is bad to give her up, but you said you lost your job, and no money, well the best thing to do is put her in a shelter so someone else could take her home, feed her. So I think you did the right thing.

  • Sandi
    Lv 4
    1 decade ago

    well I would say he should have found someone to take care of his dog other than just dumping her on you but you kept her so I think it was up to you to take care of her but as you said you could not afford her bills so I think you did the right thing in trying to find her a new home that could afford her.

  • Anonymous
    4 years ago

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  • Maxi
    Lv 7
    1 decade ago

    You did your best with the resources you had and in the circumstances you found yourself in......no one can ask any more. Hopefully she will have found a new home, with someone who can give her the training and care she needs

    Source(s): Animal behaviourist
  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    I take it you're not very educated on dogs. Or educated at all judging by your English.

    This dog was a puppy that you clearly had no time to train properly or take it out for exercise. That's the only reason why that dog was misbehaving - you never gave it any structure.

    I can't stand when people just give up on puppies, but your dog is probably better with a new owner who can actually spend time with it.

    Source(s): @Southampton - you have no idea what shoes I have had to walk in. I don't think there is any excuse for people to take on a puppy and then give up when the going gets tough - I'm sorry that you feel otherwise.
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