Mom just came back from rehab...?

I know how you feel. Im 18 years old and my dad is an alcoholic. He has also been in and out of rehab most of my life. I have troubles respecting him especially after his friend got me pregnant with my daughter when i was 17 years old. I am a mom of a 3 month old because my dad was to drunk to realize what was going on.

But they still need support no matter what. just try your best and just try to talk to her and tell her how you feel. I dont know why she is in rehab but for example i can only tell my dad how i feel when he is sober because that is the only time he actually understands what i am talking about. just take it slow and tell her you want to take it slow with eachother for now. i wish i could trust my dad too but its hard for me. what helps me to get over the anger sometimes is maybe think of the times you two had a really good time together. that usually works with me. you will get through this. and if you ever need to talk just email me.

Good luck.

Savannah

I have the same mother. My mother has been in and out of Detox around 40 times just in my 24 years of life. Of course it's okay for you to feel that way. Do you think anyone would expect you to be happy about it? Even your own mother wouldn't expect you to be fine with it or to not care at all. In my experience as a child I went through sadness first, then anger for many many years, now I am just reserved. My mother just got out of her last stint a few weeks ago. My mother won't ever change, she will keep this up the rest of her life untill the day she dies. It's true. So I have learned to be resigned to it and to not allow it to keep me away from her. Otherwise I would stay away from her and never get to have a relationship. Then the day she died I would feel horrible for not seeing her. But by just being reserved and dealing with her detox trips as they come up--we can be happy. We still have good times when she is sober and we do have a strong relationship now. People are who they are, you really just can't change them. Either grin and bear it cause there are still good times ahead with your mom, or decide not to-dont speak to her again and then regret that the rest of your life. That's the way I look at things. I'm sorry love but I doubt your mother will ever change. You can still have good times and a darn good realationship though. Best of luck.

It is perfectly normal for you to feel this way. A good thing for you would be to talk to her rehab counselor that she will get at the new outpatient. They will have some great advice of how to help you.

I have a similar problem, my mother-in-law is an addict. We have tried to help her in everyway that we can. it's frustrating cause she puts drugs in front of her kids, grandkids and the rest of the family, her grandkids don't even know who she is. In saying that I still love her, and want the best for her. i will always be there to help her, but she has to start WANTING to help herself. Just try and be patient, and when u get frustrated, try talking to her about it without getting mad. Godd luck.

If she won't stay placed she might could be in a care facility. make helpful she is familiar with she will call out and you will come help her. If the show screen isn't sufficient get a distant alarm and supply her the button. (a on the spot door bell might artwork in a pinch)

She learned in rehab that trust is earned slowly. She will be okay. This is a process for you too. I wish my mom would go to rehab. How did you get her to go?

ADD-Thanks

You might try talking to a others in a situation like yours. Al-anon is geared toward family members and support for them and what feelings you may have.