If your straight and your son and daughter both grew up to be gay, would you think you failed as a parent?

I am a lesbian, and it had NOTHING to do with my family at all. I have known I was different, from probably around 4th grade is when I really knew, but maybe even younger. Being gay is NOT a choice! Who would choose to not have the right to marry the person you want to spend your life with? Who choose to have to go through hell to even have kids, and then worry about what would happen to them if something happen to the biological parent? Who would choose to go through life and not be accepted by many. Not be able to hold hands when you walk through the mall like hetrosexual couples do. To have people look at you like your a purple dog in the room sometimes. To have very little normalicy outside of your home? No one would choose it! And if you are gay and try to live a straight life, you are miserable the entire time! I tried it. I desperately wanted to be "normal" because I lost my entire family and a lot of my friends! But I couldn't do it. I couldn't tell someone I loved them and wanted to spend my life with them when I didn't mean it. My parents didn't fail because I am gay. Infact my family is finally starting to come around and be apart of my life again, and because of that, they did everything right.

As long as they were healthy, happy, and productive their sexual preference really wouldn't matter to me. When it comes to grandkids, there is also adoption and surrogate mothers for gay couples who WANT kids. When you have a straight child, there are no guarantees they will ever make you a grandparent anyway. All things considered, being gay or straight will be the least of my concerns... Having kids is a big responsibility and I'd be more concerned about bringing them up with plenty of unconditional love and an open mind. One of the biggest problems of this day and age is the fact that we have too many people having children who lack the emotional maturity level to raise their kids with the integrity and values to respect others, despite their diverse differences.

Being gay is not a choice. I did not choose to be attracted to women and if a parent thinks they failed because their child is gay then all their doing is hurting their son or daughter.

Sorry, Hector, but this is NOT Topeka or Colorado Springs, OK?

In those two cities, homophobia is the strictly-enforced "law of the land"...remember what San Francisco mayor Gavin Newsom said:"Whether you like it or not", gay/lesbianism is here to stay!

Stop this "homophobic nonsense"!

It's people like YOU who make life difficult for gays/lesbians worldwide...

If both Redondo and Marina grew up gay/lesbian, I would still love them 100%!...

No I would not feel liked I failed as a parent. I would LOVE my children even if they were gay. I am their mother and always will be.

like Chris rock says

"Whoever you hate will end up in your family. You don't like gays? You're gonna have a gay son. You don't like Puerto Ricans? Your daughter's gonna come home with Livin' La Vida Loca!"

Jacinto's right!...Hector sounds like that Topeka reverend who's so "anti-gay" that he wants to control Kansas with an IRON FIST!

Sorry, Hector, but Jacinto has better values than most of you "religious right" freaks...treating them like LEPERS is a immoral insult to American life!

No, because I don't think having gay children is considered an Epic Fail.

No. Odds are it wouldn't happen, but would I think I failed as a parent if both kids won the lottery? Sexual orientation has nothing to do with parenting.

Uh, no.

If you had brown eyes and both your kids had blue eyes, would you feel you failed as a parent?

All the best.