Questions about dating again after 20 yr marriage?

I was scared to death about dating when I was at the same stage in life that you are in. My wife shocked me and served me with papers after 24 years of marriage. I took some time for myself to collect my thoughts (about a month). i began working out and quit drinking caffeine.

I went to some local taverns and found that the women who hang out in taverns live a different life style than I want. I don't smoke and I am only a social drinker. Then I went online and signed up on Yahoo Personals. I chatted with some of the women I met online. I found a great lady online and eventually met her in person. We are now engaged.

i don't know if that is a great way for women to meet men. But, it worked out well for me. My fiance tells me that some of the guys she met online were misrepresenting themselves. One guy even lived in his truck.

Please be careful and don't believe everything guys have to say. A lot of them are good at telling a lady what she wants to hear just to get them to have sex with them. I feel for you and i wish you well. You have a lot of life to live and I'm sure you'll find a great guy to spend the rest of your life with.

Really difficult..........I'm sorry I was in the same position 10 years ago, although didn't want to date, have been aske out several times and I back off so quickly...........so I would say becareful about 'dating' while you are divorcing it can be brought into the divorce proceedings by the 'ex' which is then difficult for you and your new partners relationship and relax and start to enjoy the single life where you don't have to think about your partners needs and if/when someone asks you out you will know who you are, how you feel and what you want..join a club a night class, go swimming etc and if he is there he will find you.

Good luck

hey take it easy. eharmony is a good site for people looking for something real. and just as in any other case, there are people who want to fool around as well so a little cautioun never hurt anyone.

as for your age, youre at a great age. its not perfect but youre young enough and as you said, you have kids and ""do not raise them nor do I have young children at home"". you have your own place and youre in the clear.

youre just being nervous. one thing to probably keep in mind is that "beginner's luck"" is kinda hard to come by. just be honest, play it cool and you should be able to find what youre looking for.

the papers might take forever to be final depending on how quick your lawyers are and stuff. so you probably will have to tell your dates about your current situation. and they can either take it or leave it.

its going to take a while, so the most important thing is to get out there and try to find something close to what your looking for and have fun.

good luck!

You're now not going to love this, however I consider the truth that you published this question on right here indicates that you recognize there may be whatever fallacious with this hindrance. You are 17. You could also be over the age of consent, however you're nonetheless technically a baby. This guy has visible and skilled an whole global that you haven't and nor are you in a position for. I consider he appears like an educated manipulator - he makes it seem that he's serving to you e.g. supplying you with a position to stick while you ran clear of residence, supplying you with cash after which serving to you get again residence, however he additionally mocks your emotions and desires it to seem that it's ok so that you can have a threesome, which obviously you're now not secure with. Nor is it ok for him to be continually speaking approximately intercourse - plenty of predators do that with young adults seeing that they desire it to seem that a few of his fetishes are utterly common and the opposite individual is prudish for being uncomfortable. He's gambling along with your feelings and this isn't ok. Also why is a person in his 50s occupied with a 17 yr ancient who lives in an totally unique state? This indicates that he will also be with you with out his peers or loved ones realizing what he's as much as. You must get out of this. If you consider are not able to speak on your mum and dad approximately what's going on, then discover an extra grownup who you'll be able to believe. Whoever you speak to is not going to be irritated with you - they are going to recognize that you have been taken abilities of and they are able to and can aid you.

However you choose to get back in the dating scene; just be sure to use protection if you become sexually active. There are so many stories about these women who haven't dated in a long time who think they are in another long term relationship only to find out they caught an STD. HPV is so prevalent that 80% of all adults have it. So right there 80% of the dating pool has an STD.

I don't think there is any time frame given or to take into consideration..It is good to get out and socialize and make friends..Just because you meet the first guy does not mean that he will be your boyfriend..

Making new friends and meeting new people is a great thing and it will keep you busy, which is not a bad thing..Go for it and have fun!!

Good luck!!

wow I'm 25 and I'm worried about this dating situation... I can't "click" with anyone else the way I did with my ex.. .. It's goign to take a while for you to find a compatible mate.. specially at thirty something .. you could try dating sites, however those are BS they only work if you want to get laid.. uhh i dont know where i'd start if i was your age.. I guess a single's group at your local church if you go to one...

You must wait until you are divorced (final) before you even think about dating. Married people do not date. Secondly, you should take at least a year to figure out who you are as a single person before you start to date. It is not fair to the guy to get involved before you are ready.