a question for the regulars here about an earlier posting?

People will TD just about anything and I think it is one of the silliest features on this site. I get the same thing all the time to questions like how many children have you adopted. I answer two and get a tonne of TD's which leads me to believe that I need to recount them because I am wrong or that I am wrong to have adopted. Either way, I don't care.

Someone could ask what colour the sky is and the answer "blue" would still garner a disproportionate number of TDs.

I haven't thumbed either way on that thread 'cause there is no good or bad answer to it imo. That said, I do TD some stories 'cause I'm so damn shocked by what's in them, rather than because I disbelieve what the poster's saying, which is why I try not to be surprised by some of the high TD ratings some of my more moderate posts get.

It does amuse that people seem to TD Spotty-Dotty just because they see her (?? I'm guessing from the pic. there dear, so if I'm wrong, feel free to kick me) name and pic. there. If it were anyone lesser (not the word I want, but I'm knackered and off to bed soon, so cba to work out the word I actually do want) than SD then I think I'd be less amused and more concerned about how they'd deal with so much negativity, but SD strikes me as someone more than capable of holding her own.

I just can't resist the word play on this one. What the heck is the difference between "gotten" and "begotten" other than a few centuries of linguistic evolution? Perhaps it should be "begotten" to natural parents and "adgotten" to adoptive parents? No?

I thought it was odd as well. How does one get TDs for answering a simple question? All I saw was people answering how many kids their adopted parents..adopted. To include a few nmothers answering as well. All anyone did was give a number...so what's so TD about that? Makes no sense to me...What? people don't like to hear how many kids people adopted?...this place can be quite nutty at times...no rhyme or reason!! O! Well!

I think if someone asked "Adoptees! How many of you have brown eyes?" and we all answered honestly, some people would get TD'd just because they are who they are. Some people thumbs down on accident, but I think most of it is because there are certain prejudices against certain people here.

ETA: See below... lol.

Yes I noticed that as well but it makes me laugh when I give the same or similar answer to others yet I'll get a load of TDs and they get TUs.

I don't get how "got" is offensive. Like you, that's what I grew up hearing. "The day we got you" "When we got you" I mean....what else are you supposed to say? That's is what they did. They went and got me from somewhere. I'm curious about what is supposed to be the new politically correct alternative.

LOL! Oh my gosh, I noticed the very same thing on that question...I noticed what you're saying; about three of you having the same answer and yet getting different numbers of TD...But then, I also got a few for saying that my relatives had adopted two kids. I have no clue. Sometimes, the TD situation around here is downright weird.

ETA: See? TD! Ha ha! Case in point! :-P

I don't know. My sense was that it was more about the ignorance of certain people who do not like the term BSE or do not believe there was a Baby Scoop Era at all... Maureen was one of the posters who just seems to be totally in denial about the history of adoption and because she doesn't want to believe it, she keeps putting everyone else down.

I suspect that any of us who even use the term or similar terms of what has now been historically proven, will attract TD's from the pro-adoption crowd. Of course who knows how these people think?

My son's a- mother was the same way. I sent her a copy of "The Primal Wound" after he and I met and which was even written by an adoptive mother, and she told my son she wasn't interested in reading such psychobabble!

So my son has carefully over the years only discussed his adoption issues with me and therapists and not with her because she can't handle it.

I wonder the same thing when a question asks for a simple fact-based answer or asks someone to describe a personal experience.

More than likely, you're getting the TDs due to someone not liking the responder.

ETA: See? Case in point.

ETA2: I don't think we've ever used "got" in reference to the adoption of our children. It just sounds a bit too much like "gotcha" and we don't like that term.