Does anyone think it is really possible for 47yr. old man to love 16 yr. old girl?

NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO! YOUR FRIEND IS MR.HERBERT, HE IS A PEDO

I find that wrong. For two big reasons

(This would be leaving money completely out of the equation, as I see that as the only reason a 16 year old would want to do things with a 47 year old, unless she's twisted)

One being that if that man is 31 years older than her...there is a HUGE maturity difference...physically, emotionally, and with life experience. I'm sure the 47 year old is a nice guy but it puts that girl in a position to be manipulated.

Two- If it really is love, What does that girl do when she's 40 with 3 kids and he's falling apart? I'm not sure if that attraction will stay there. and if it does, for how much longer will she have his support?

The good thing about love is that your not destined to be with only one person. There are other people out there that fit who you are. I would advise both of them to move on from this fantasy and "get real"

**That is ONLY if your already in the middle of the situation...If your just an outsider to this looking in I don't find it right to take any sort of action.

He is having issues, although he may be a very good person. The girl is too young and unless he was in a coma most of his life they cannot possibly relate on enough to have a lasting relationship even if they waited for her to be 18. Women develop so much between 18-24. If you are over the age of 24 think about your view on life and your personality how much it changed during those years. They start defining what they want in life and who they want in life. It could be a mid life crisis, both genders have to pass those milestones when their youth has been replaced with wisdom and experience. I am sure he truly cares for her, worries about her safety, and it probably makes him feel good to be in a position to protect her be her "Savior" this is the fantasy of a situation like this. Not just the typical some old dude getting lucky with a young girl. For most guys who go through something like this it's a little more than that. If she's been warming up to him pulling his heart strings at the same time because just like him she is going through a tough time and this seems like a warm safe environment for her that's where disaster can strike. Even though both parties their intentions are good you need to be able to show them what the long term effects are.

For him : This won't last and eventually he will be single again and that much older trying to find some to love and spend his last days with.

For Her : This could severely change her image of what a healthy relationship should be impeding her development and chance for making healthy decisions for herself and happiness in the future.

Lastly if they were to have kids to try to keep it together, not only will both of their lives be devastated when they split up. But the children will suffer with barely knowing their Dad and growing up in an unhealthy relationship.

My advice is you need to focus on her, don't tell her what she is doing wrong you need to show examples long term timelines of what the dangers are. Don't tell her what to do, show her everything so she can come to the conclusion on her own. Her parents or guardian need to take a very active role in her well being. Need to overcome whatever boundaries they have and re-connect. IMO their isn't much time left for her. Good Luck! I truly wish this turns out for you and your friends.

Facts are that unless she is in one of the few states that still has age of consent above 16, she is legal.

Though young are cute and some times sexy, they are not at an emotional level of a normal 47 yr old.

From what you say, he does not have True love for her. I am guessing he is needy and does not have the skills to deal with people close to his age. If he is needy the only way to help is to support him in meeting someone older than 25 and let him get good vibes from the association.

It is normal for young girls to come on to their dads as they go through puberty. If she does not have one and she is finding out in a negative way she can manipulate and older person, then she is learning a negative way to relate to people.

There is no way this will produce a positive relationship and especially the offspring, if girls could be at risk.

well i guess anyone can fall in love and it might be possible they did...but my personal opinion is....the fact that he wants to "take care of her" he just wants to be needed and a 16 year old girl will accept it and wont have the baggage an attitude of a woman his age. she probably knows what shes doing and it seems like shes just taking advantage 16 year old girls can get manipulated easily but they also know how to manipulate. but 6 months is a long time for a 16 year old and he will probably get his heart broken if it is actual love.

Hopefully they come to their senses in those 6 months.

What are BOTH of them thinking?

This man needs to get a woman HIS age. (Or at least half his age plus 7) A 16 year old girl isn't going to stay in a relationship with him forever, she's YOUNG and is going to want to go around with guys her age (hopefully). She doesn't know what she wants at 16.

This man needs to lay off her, and leave her be.

personally, I think its all wrong.

I think it's possible for some. Definitely not all though. To me 16 year olds are just too immature. I couldn't handle being with someone that young.

well yeah! i'm 19 and my man is 46. We are engaged i'm in college he works. life is good. my mother didn't approve of it when i was 18 but the damage was already done. I like how he wont's to wait when she is of legal age to have children. That's what my man wants to do but i don't want any children right now so he's waiting. your friend might have a history of having sex with older men, and she might like it. That is why she might be so comfortable with the man. Talk to her. get her to open up about how she feels and then you will see how she thinks.

I am glad you tried to put sense into this 47 yr old man. I wouldn't doubt that he wants more with this girl so please go to her parents and try to protect her. She might want money off of him, but it is still a crime, I really hope you continue minding his business so you can keep an eye on this young girl.

Let them live and or ruin their lives. They both know odd that is and only time will tell if they are trully meant to be with each other. Nothing you can say or do will effect them. It's going to work its self out.

it is weird yeah maybe this six month will help them maybe they both just need someone else special in there age range to help them out but i guess love doesn't have a age