Am I overreacting? Please I need your opinions?

I can see where you're coming from and I would also be a bit disturbed by the love stains. If I were you i would just go out with your man, get a nice new mattress, new sheets and a few new duvet covers that you have chosen together and split the bill.

It sounds like you are overreacting. What if he came to your place? I'm sure that somewhere on your bed there are some "love stains" as well. Do we need to break out the blacklight? The past is the past. You were having sex before him, and he was too before you came along, so I would just let it go. If it really bothers you that much, then buy new material so you guys can get on with your lives. I can see how you look at it all and say, "hmmmmm!," but the issue is trivial.

I can understand your frustration cause I'm particular about certain things too. If I were you, I'd buy brand new sheets, a mattress foam pad, and a down mattress cover (they are so comfortable!) for now. At least this way, you're not consumed by the idea of making contact with the ex's residue. Then when you get married, buy a new mattress set as a way to commemorate your new beginning.

Since it's only been a little while, you have to consider that when you say "cutting it all off" some guys think you mean really, really short, like a guy's hair cut. So if you went from looking like Rapunzel to looking like Anne Heche, that's when he'd probably be upset. He likes you the way you are, and doesn't want you to have hair like a dude. My BF (who's now 29) first met me when I had really long hair, but when I wanted to cut it short last year, he was okay with it as long as I still looked like a girl. But, I do think you are over reacting, because you asked him a joking way. Let it go.

ok... I understand where you're coming from and would see why you're feeling this way - but his ex's are his past - and we all have them so you have to accept that you werent the only woman he slept with.

Would moving house be an option? Maybe somewhere fresh for the two of ye where you wont have constant reminders of the fact he lived with other women?

If not, then you need to put yourself in the frame of mind that yeah hes had other women - but hes marrying you!

xx

if u can't buy bed now the best is to turn the mattress and try 2 talk 2 yo men u a not overreacting.

Sounds like the start of a good Stephen King novel, The Love Stains.

Go buy a new bed, its not that big of a deal unless you let it fester in your mind. You sound a little crazy, but then we all got a little crazy inside of us.

The bed is not important. The bed sheet isn't either. What is more important is is he truly loyal to you.

Go and get a new bed and a new bed sheet. A new life needs a new beginning.

well, I can totally understand you. But if you want a girl advice..if I were you Id talk with my boyfriend about why does it bother me and what I'm thinking about all of that and say that you would feel better if you both buy another bed. i don't know...just be honest with him and with your feelings and everything might end okay...:)

No i don't think your over reacting. I wouldnt sleep in that bed if that were there eughh.

Just say to him "whats that?" and hell be like " :| ?"

i dont think thats very nice of him to leave it there doesnt sound like he cares much.

you should tell him in a try-nice way that it bothers you, im sure theres things about you that bother him??

:)