In reunion - need Christmas gift ideas for birth mom?

A professional portrait session with her son.

I agree, if she is that happy to have her son back in her life, she really doesn't care what you call her.

I also think that no matter what she gets, the gift will be perfect.

But to answer the question.

A photo album of different stages in his life. You don't have to give her the actual photo, run them through your computer and make copies for her and just put it together in a sequential fashion. I received a lock of my daughters hair last year in a scrap book of her life and i did indeed cry.

You can also go to hallmark stores and buy ornaments of all varieties. You may be able to find one to fit the occasion even though it doesn't spell out our first year BACK together, there might be something that does represent a first christmas together.

She'll stop crying one day. Those are tears of relief and they have been building up for 50 years. I cried at the drop of a dime for months after finding my daughter again.

I am not an adoptee or first mom.

Just to add what smarmy. We lived away from my family for 2 years in Asia. My sister had a book made on kodakgallery.com that was a photobook before we left. It is like a scrapbook but it has a hard cover. They have some with very nice leather bindings.

You can add stories and captions and all that stuff.

I was thrilled with a picture of my bdaughter in a beautiful frame. It was so sweet. Then 2 years ago she did a scrapbook for me, absolutely priceless. One year she bought me a CD of the 70's (she was born in 72). Everything she has given me I cherish. I love all the pictures of the grandkids too (in a frame).

We have been in reunion since 2001. Like I said, I cherish everything, but the baby pic was so special for me.

My son and I have similar interests so he has bought me books or films that he knows I haven't read or seen but want to, So if you have some idea of her interests then buy something related to that or I like the "portrait" idea as she would probably love either a picture of him or him and family or him and her together.

I do agree that scrap booking would be a great idea. You can make a scrapbook of your husbands life. I think she would love to see that.

I think it would be better to buy her a gift based on her personality, rather than what you see as her "role."

For example, when I buy a Christmas gift for my mother, I'm not buying to fit a generic "mother"-- I'm buying something that I think my mom as an individual will value. Likewise everyone else on my shopping list. I don't think that just because she didn't raise your husband, she deserves a less personalized gift than you'd even give a casual acquaintance.

You've known her since July. What does she like to do? Hobbies? Interests? Taste in books or music? Home decoration theme? Favourite colours?

If all else fails, a tastefully framed photo of time you've spent with her and/or treating her to a meal shared with you at a nice restaurant is almost never taken amiss. But I really think you should be factoring her individual personality and tastes heavily into the choice.

ETA: Um... you asked for suggestions for a "birth mom" without telling us ONE THING about her personality or tastes. How is that NOT asking for suggestions based on her role? We don't even know her, and you didn't seem to think we needed to-- her role is the only thing you told us. I'm sorry if you feel offended, but your question doesn't exactly focus on her as a unique person, you know?

A personalized scrapbook, with pictures of his life, and pictures of their reunion. I had made one for my "J's" reunion with his brother after 48 years. It goes with him everywhere, and had pictures of all 3 of his siblings, pictures of their mom throughout the years, favorite colors listed, foods, etc. Perhaps a musical card to go with it, with the song, "I'll be home for Christmas."

It sounds like she already got the one she wants most for Christmas.