What do you do when someone you care about is in trouble and you have evidence?

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Someone I know came to my house and had bruises and cuts all over her. She told me to take pics just in case something else happened. She told me her bf who lives with her did this and he also broke her windshield on her car. She said "do NOT tell anyone" and told me that she wasn't going to work for a few days and that she had to buy a new phone because he broke hers, again.

What do I do? I don't want to get involved because I have a family and this guy is BIG and I don't want to get hurt too. and she will know if I tell anyone because I'm the only person she told!

Any advice is appreciated, I'm really scared for her.

Tammy · Accepted Answer

You are already doing it, just be a good friend to her and be there for her when she needs you.  Let her know how worried you are for her safety.  Are there any children involved?  The police can't do anything unless she is willing to press charges.  You could google your local women's crisis center, for abused and battered women and give her the info you find.  Read up on it and share the info with her.  But that's about it.

Anonymous · Answer

Unfortunately, the law can only do something about crimes he commits.

Societal norms would dictate that you or somebody else take her to the police station and file domestic assault charges against him.  They would find him and arrest him, and you might be able to get a restraining order against him, but if that is not an option, then all you and/or her could do would be to have her stay with you temporarily while she signs up for a stay at the local Spousal Abuse Center and "prepare for the worst" by arming yourselves with things like Mace or an Electric Stun Gun or baseball bat or whatever, and just be brave, determined, courageous, and legal...

Self-defense in this situation would be very easy to prove.  You might also try safety in numbers...get two or three guys to confront him and whup his oz from here to next Sunday, but no guns...that's an overkill...keep it legal.

nojudge · Answer

i dont think taking action from your side without telling her will be a smart thing to do ... all what you can to do is to try to convince her to do something about her current situation.. and if she already came to you and take photos it means that she is planning something. or at least started to think about it ... now just try to be by her side whenever she needs you , and try to convince her to be strong enough to report what is happenign with her if she is sure that there is someone like police or anything that can protect her and let him stop, otherwise things will be worst for both of you .,,

T Horse · Answer

shes gonna get hurt more if u dont tell u idiot call the police but explain the situation to them

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