Did she create a monster... or just let it out of its cage?

I guess you tried it and you liked it. Nothing wrong with that as long as you find a woman who likes it too. Stop feeling so guilty. Sex and sexual turn ons can be odd sometimes. As long as both parties are happy then why give yourself such a hard time over it? As long as you are a decent, good guy in real life, the way you play in the bedroom is just that - play!

You may have been uncomfortable with your ex's sexual wants, but you obviously liked them or you wouldn't have stayed so long. So find yourself a lady who likes it too and enjoy yourselves. Remember to always treat her with affection and respect tho' . And remember that this is just fantasy sexual play. Be safe and make sure she feels safe too.

Stop worrying!

Well as a kinkster, though I am not into like the uber-violent BDSM stuff, though light kink is fun, and maybe some spanking now and then .... nothing wrong with it.

Bottom line is, your ex gf unleashed a hidden monster and introduced you to the delights of some really cool stuff.

There are women out there that are totally into being "taken" and advertise for that kind of sex on various alternative lifestyle dating services.

On the other hand, its just conditioned learning anyway. You were just conditioned to really get it on the way you want to do it now, because ahem your ex gf got you you're reward.

And now you like "that" reward rather than the conventional stuff.

Personally, the face-slapping and heavy violence isn't really that good after awhile. Its demeaning. Maybe your ex got tired of it and figured she'd trained and ruined you at the same time?

Anyway, try and find ways to adjust to both the regular and the alternative life styles. This way you can entertain in both worlds.

I think sex can be like a drug - you need more and more of it, and more hardcore stuff to get a better high. I don't think there is anything wrong with doing kinky stuff, but just with the person you love, and as long as there is a balance between love making and kinky sex.

I knew a lady who was addicted to sex and did similar things that you're describing. She dated a guy who had been so distorted, he couldn't climax unless he was watching porn while she went down on him. My friend's boyfriend used to plop a porn magazine on her BACK while he did her doggy style just so he could climax.

If you are concerned maybe you should wait until a gal that you love and respect comes along so you can experience all the beautiful things about sex with, rather than seeing a couple people at a time.

different strokes for different folks..as long as she is ok with it and your ok with it there is nothing to worry about, now do you mean slap hard or just a light slap because most of the time it is a light slap it is all about fun and role playing, kinda of like dressing up to get in the mode.like when some people like the hand cuffs but there really play cuffs,.,

She unlocked it. If you think about it, it is pretty simple to understand. You were deprived of sex for so long that any sex was great, but little did you know that you would like a dominatrix in a manner of speaking.

Well if you both get a kick out of it ?? Stick with each other

There are,nt many girls who would stand to be slapped about like that

Sounds like you are now a perv - I didn't realise that it was contagious! Good for you, at least you're getting some now after your 10 years in a nunnery!!

Unfortunately, you allowed her to turn you into a freak. You'll probably never have a real loving relationship again. You will only want porn style stuff and that leads to nothing but loneliness. Too bad.

This is what is called "porn creep", and you had an equal part in creating it, by participating. Have you tried counseling?

I feel sorry for you