Drug addicted brother? What do I do? ):?

First of all, it's commendable that you've taken the brunt of this problem, but it really shouldn't be you having to sort this out.

Your mom is probably being really leniant with your brother because she's scared of losing him, or scared of him. She's probably confused as to what to do, and is more emotionally involved in this than you are (since he's her son). I doubt she's really stupid, she's just probably hesitant to be strict with him for fear of him leaving/hating her.

Like I was saying before, this shouldn't be your responsibility - you're only 16, and I'm sure you've got your own problems, never mind taking on your brother's.

My brother used to be exactly the same as this - he was having a difficult time in his teenage years, and totally ignored help, or the comfort of friends and family. All he was interested in was going out and getting high. It ended pretty badly - the cops were called one night, arrested him for being in posession of drugs, him and my mom fell out... it got really ugly because he'd delved so deep into the whole drug problem. In hindsight, I realise now that leaving him to his own devices was a bad idea, because for all he was behaving like a petulant brat, he just needed to be set straight on a few things.

What you need to do is have a serious talk with your mom. Tell her that you're worried that his drug problem is escalating, and that hiding her head in the sand isn't going to make it go away. Tell her to talk to him, and tell him to sort himself out, because being psychologically AND physically abusive is not right. Especially with your mom, and he needs to see that. She needs to be firm, but to let him know that she is there to help him. I think your brother has gotten so used to being able to do whatever he wants that he'll probably kick off about such an intervention, but so long as your mom stays firm, he should come to understand that things have to change.

As for you, I think you talk to your brother, and tell him that you were looking out for him, to HELP him, and that if he can't appreciate that, then you wont try to help him again. He needs to see that he should be grateful for a sister who cares about him so much. If he can't feel appreciative of that, then he should see what it's like to be out there alone. That'd teach him a lesson.

Above all, if you feel that any of this gets out of control, call the police, and explain the situation to them. They will arbitrate the situation and tell your brother where he is out of line.

I'm sure this problem will work itself out - some kids (in fact, most kids) have really bumpy teenage years, and sometimes some problems are inavoidable. But so long as your brother knows what he's doing is wrong, that it needs to stop, and that you and your mom are STILL prepared to help him, then it should eventually become clear to him that he needs to grow up.

I hope this works out for you, and that this novel-sized bit of advice is helpful :-)

First of all marijuana isn't bad, it's the only drug that won't do any harm to you and it's the only one that's not addicting.

You're obviously a naive idiot, your brother would go to prison for up to a year or more if the police caught him. Prison would only make him worse, if you want to help him then get him some ******* help. Stop being a ***** snitch and do something about it.

I think your brothers pretty much on the point of no return though, once you start a life like this then it's set in stone. I've seen it happen too many times and I've seen it ruin a lot of families, including mine.

It sounds like everyone in your household needs help. Violence does not solve anything as you already know. It's important that you've recognized the fact that current situation needs to be addressed. I would start by having a family discussion. You know? you and your family will have to sat down and have discussion(s) about problems and concerns. If possible to it at a public place where you'll be safe and everyone will be aware of the surroundings. This might make it easier to discuss sensitive issues that may trigger anger before anything else. Then you'll need to contract the children services. You need counseling just as much as your brother and your mom. Now as for your brother's addictions and violence, you need to contact you local rehabilitation services that offers treatments. You should be able to find local center pretty easily. However, it's important that you don't blame any one or finger point to anyone on this problem(s) Accusing you mom of being %^^&*@ doesn't do any good and it makes you look just as bad.Good luck~

There's nothing you can do to make your brother stop using drugs, however if you suggest to your mother that all of ya'll go to a counselor, it will really help everyone with communication and getting along better. Also, if your family life is going better, maybe your brother will feel less of the need to go escape and do drugs.

Do what your mother should have done. Call the police and turn your

brother in. Also let the police know about the threats at school and

what your mother does to support this behavior. You need to be

removed from the home and placed somewhere else until your

mother can get it together.

Go to the police. You need to try something to stop this.

Or try talking to the teachers/principal.

counselling and rehab centres will help

you can bear the cost talking to your friends or the centre itself

hope thsi helps !