Christians: What do you do to keep the Spark in your marriage?

I try to keep my mind on my husband during the day. Like I think of his attributes or what I like about him, I call him a few times a day. Usually when I start thinking of him, I eventually come around to thinking of sex. Keeping our communication frequent has helped a lot, because in the past I might not speak to him all day, then get home and cook and wash dishes, get the kids in bed, and suddenly he'd spring, and I would have no clue it was coming, so it was a total turn off. It takes time for me to work up to those sorts of feelings.

We also studied the Song of Solomon together and that gave us insight as well. Realizing that the things we do are completely fine to do in the confines of a Christian marriage. I feel more freedom to really be me and let that show through in the bedroom. I take more initiative myself now. And a big part of this is also my husband. He communicates with me more, he compliments me frequently,in and outside of the bedroom. Outside of the bedroom he is a great father, he is a man I can respect and he nutures me. All of that makes me want to serve him. Occasionally something will happen during the day or whatever where I just feel like, I'm just not in the mood tonight. But more and more often when that happens I just tell myself to go with it, and eventually I'm in the mood whether I want to be or not, if you get my meaning.

So, I hope that's what your asking, otherwise, waaaay too much TMI!

I'm atheist, but I have a straight and simple answer.

Every week, my wife and I have two date nights. We make it a point to go eat - not a lavish meal by any means, but not at home. No phone calls from the kids, club members, or such. We turn off the cell phones. We chat about the week and how things have gone. We take the time it takes to listen to each other, to make time for each of us to unload if there is some crying-on-the-shoulder time needed. We give each other the gift of face time.

This is over and above any time we get in passing or at dinner when at home. The date nights give us a break from the routine. Even just a small break is all you need sometimes.

being a man makes me to know that when a woman loves, respects and values me; i will go to any length to be there for her. when for any reason, the spark was gone, i go back to the beginning.

all in all, being led by God means we try to help each other enjoy marriage rather than endure it.

do not follow all these nonsense we see in movies or all the beijing conference crab; they are all satan's calculations to destroy the first institution God established. There is no born again Christian that will hurt his wife or see her as inferior.

That is a good question. I have been married for 36 years. I think the main key for us is to continue to court each other, to do little favors for each other such that your actions evidence that you still care about each other. Both parties have to be committed to the union and have to pay attention to each other. When the scripture says to forsake all others and cleave unto your wife, they mean it. There is no room for split allegiance in marriage. The parties need to have complete faith and trust in each other. The wife can give herself in confidence to her husband, knowing that he cares for her above all others with complete fidelity. He puts her needs above his own. Likewise for the wife, putting his needs above her own.

Another factor in keeping the love alive is the mutual caring for the needs of the children. After the love for each other, they both have a complete love and dedication to the children. They are committed to being there to help their children through life. They don't give up on them any more than they would give up on each other. When husband and wife both see the mutual effort, it has a tremendous loving impact.

Now, as for intimacy, it is also important. However, it is common for the man and woman to have very different interest levels in the sexual relationship. Therefore, it is again important for husband and wife to bend to each other. Usually, the man needs to back off a bit and the woman needs to be willing to give a bit. Both will appreciate the sacrifice the one is doing for the other. Then, remember to set aside private time for just the two of you. That goes back to my first comment of continuing to court each other. Give yourselves some alone time. Go out on dates regularly. Do something special now and then.

It works.

If you both follow after God he will keep the flame going for your whole lives. I think the problem with most Christians is they don't seek God's approval on the relationship they get into. God will provide for his people someone that will make each other happy for a lifetime. If you follow the bible's instructions it tells you many times how to do so and my favorite is Ephesians 5:22-33.

The spark has never gone out of my marriage. We love and respect one another. And we always put the other one first.

What does being Christian have anything to do with the question. Or do you mean how does being intolerant of other people's religious beliefs help your marriage? Then being Christian would have something to do with your question.

I installed a Mallory dual point distributor and a high output coil on my hot rod.

We sit by the fire and read Bible verses to each other until sunrise.... oooh I can feel the romance!

Trade gender roles.