Why does my husband deny me sex but constantly masturbate?

This only happened very recently? Is it possible he cheated and is worried that he may have caught something?

Another possibility: masturbation is quick and simple. Is sex a full-blown production for you? Do you have to have tons of foreplay every single time? Sometimes guys just like to get off and don't want the hassle of making out with you, warming you up, giving you foreplay, and finally getting to it.

And another: do you give him foreplay? Or do you expect him to be able to spring to attention with little to no stimulation? A lot of women think that if a guy wants to have sex, the penis just automatically becomes erect. It doesn't always work that way. So maybe he wants sex, but he needs involvement from you to get going. Use your hands and mouth - don't assume you should just be able to lie back, spread your legs, and he'll be ready.

Lastly, did you have a bad experience with sex lately? Was he unable to perform? That can play with a guy's head also.

The next time he masturbates, why don't you take over and see where it goes?

Instead of trying to guess at why this is happening you should sit down and talk to him about it. Don't be confrontational just tell him how you are feeling. To have a successful marriage you must communicate and not keep things bottled up inside. You won't know the real reason until you ask. Sit him down and just ask him to be honest with you. Just because he is doing that doesn't automatically imply he is cheating contrary to what others have said. There are so many reasons he may be doing this...the only way to find out the true reason is to ask him.

Because you have 2 issues going on here. Infertility and Masturbation. You have a healthy attitude when it comes to Masturbation. Every one Master bates, and it sounds like you have a healthy sex life. But now you are also talking about Infertility, and infertility brings blame. YOU have decided that the fact that you are not getting pregnant is your fault. This is a two way street. You need to have a candid conversation with your husband, that on certain days of the month, he needs to "save up the boys"

Well something is not right, obviously. I'm not gonna put you down by no means, but you may be doing something, or saying something that is turning him off. If that is not the case, then he himself is feeling something not good during the sexual act. Maybe he thinks he's not doing you justice, and just decided to masturbate instead of embarrassing him self. Honey, an out sider looking in can only guess. The only one who knows the answer to this question is your husband. Good luck

you need to confront him. Tell him that it's really important, and you want to have a moment to talk to him. Tell him that your really hurt right now, and you're feeling unloved. He can tell you he loves you, but his actions tell a different story. That intimacy is important for a healthy relationship. Ask him if there is anything that happened, or if he's not getting anything that he needs from it. Tell him that you want to work this out, because it's not fair for you to be hurt and for him to be blowing it off.

If he still does it, then say "Okay, well my sexual needs are not being met in this relationship, so do you mind if I find myself a **** buddy until you decide I'm worth it?" see what he says. If that may make any sense to him

In order of likelihood:

1) He doesn't trust you to have sex with him. The porn never says no, later, not tonight, I have a headache, maybe tomorrow, etc... etc...

2) You make him use condoms

3) He has grown resentful that you only want sex on one or two particular days a month

4) You're not into it (Are you done yet?)

5) Your sex life is dull (Not willing to try new things)

6) He feels inadequate or that he can't satisfy you

7) He "caught" you using a vibrator (see 6)

8) You let yourself go

9) He thinks you cheated or are cheating

10) He's addicted to porn.

That hurts don't it? Don"t let him make you feel this way anymore. Talk to him and ask him WHY. Let him know how it makes you feel as a woman. I do wish you the best of luck here. It could be nothing. Who knows. But do be ready for the answer when you ask.

Beats me. (get it?)

Seriously, I don't know. He could be gay, he could just not find you attractive, he could have a porn issue or some hang up that doesn't allow him to get aroused unless he is fantasizing about something really kinky...daily masturbation isn't a good thing, especially when it interferes with a healthy marital sex life. He knows it bothers you but denies you anyway....I'm sorry, but I'm afraid this is a big problem. You have to get him to open up to you. This is a deal breaker.

Gee Shannon, that's pretty blunt. While any of those reasons may be right or true, we can't know and neither can she until she asks him.

Bring it up, calmly. Tell him that you want to start having more regular sex, and ask him if he's on board with that. If he hesitates or denies, ask: Why?

Im wondering how you know he is masturbating.Its not hard to hide something like this.He obviously doesn't care to hide it.I think it because masturbating is easier than connecting emotionally ,for some people.