How do I handle this work situation? Was professional now personal?

you need to deal with this with your management

& get them involved

this is harassment

start recording days, time & dates of incidents.

you DO not need to put up with her B.S

good luck

If your work has an HR department or a complaints department, I would start there. The supervisor may be friends with this woman, but she is being abusive towards you (verbally!) and needs to be dealt with. I would try and find your contract of employment and follow the grievance procedure. Go over the head of your supervisor and explain to HR that you didn't feel you could speak to the supervisor because she is friends with this woman. Failing that (and I mean severly failing that), I would contact the police. She is harrassing you at work and stalking you online. As I say, the last measure should be done if you've explored all the avenues and nothing else can be done.

Do me a favour though, don't let this woman get away with it. All too often I have heard of people leaving companies, because they can't stand the situation any more. Unfortunately, the victim tends to remain the victim while the perpetrator keeps their job and doesn't have a blot on their character. You need to fight this and make sure that the company are aware of what she is doing. I promise you if you deal with this professionaly and file a satisfactory grievance, she won't be treating you like this again. Shame on her!!

i feel for you; this person is displaying some traits of passive-aggressive behaviour, and seems to have taken your disagreement very personally indeed. the fact that you have evidence that she has been googling you is pretty disturbing too.

if she is personal friends with your supervisor, it may appear that you will need to speak with someone above your supervisor. however, this will incur her wrath (and your supervisor's) even more. so it looks like you could start looking around for another job, and decide that she isn't worth your time to go on living like that, or talk with her directly. most bullies are always afraid when someone confronts them directly. although, be prepared that she might just choose to deny everything and make you look bad instead. tell her that the things she says are hurtful to you and they are counter-productive. if even a one-on-one conversation does not work, it's time to leave, as these people usually never change.

it is one thing to fight for your rights, but another thing altogether to waste time on a lost cause.

You need to register at some employment agencies and have them start finding you a job, then you need to talk to this person one on one in private and tell her that while you may not be friendly, you do have to work together and she is creating a hostile, toxic work environment for you. If she cannot be professional and courteous then she will make it necessary for you to file a grievance with HR and go outside the company if necessary, because harassing someone in the workplace is ILLEGAL. Then document everything she says or does and the date and time and circumstances. Being friends with the supervisor does not give her freedom to abuse and harass you.

Ask your Supervisor if you can use their office for 10 minutes to discuss a personal issue with your co-worker. Let them know that while you don't want to file a formal complaint right now the issue is becoming work related and you'd like to discuss it with her. Ask for privacy.

When you speak with the co-worker let them know you heard the hurtful comments and that they are personal. Let her know that it needs to stop. Ask her what she felt was judgmental about your observation. She'll blather on about how rude you were. Let her speak until she stops. Say that you are sorry for any misunderstanding and that you were trying to be helpful. Let her know you won't offer to help her ever again because she misunderstands your intent. (I know, it's not really true but it's worth stating it).

Ask her if she would like to speak with you and the Supervisor together for any work related issues.

If yes, offer to make the appointment.

If no, say thank you for your time. I trust your personal comments will be kept to yourself from here on.

Key to this discussion is where it is being held and you remaining calm. Do not let her mix personal with work items. That should do it.

Look for a new job, but Do tell your boss, when you give notice, its because of this person. At least you'll be helping others on your way out. Complaining and staying may only make your work envirement worse. She sounds very insecure that a professional disagreement causes her to act so childish.

Sounds like you put your foot in your mouth.

Apologize and move on.

There is no win in this situation for you.

Talk to your supervisor carefully

Be very careful

no accusations

Just ask for help in dealing with her friend.