My Mother Is Letting My Little Brother Get Misinformed About Sex (Kind of Long)?

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This is an issue of age, so I'll start off by telling you right off the bat so to speak, that I just turned seventeen yesterday at 6:00AM. I am adopted and have a little brother who comes from a different family, and we were both adopted by the same parents. My little brother's name is Neil, and he is ten. Well, a lttle over a week ago, Neil and I were sitting on the same sofa watching cartoons on "Cartoon Network", and we were discussing the TV show that was on during one of the commercial breaks. At one point, a "Neo-Pets" commercial came on, and the commercial talked something about making your Neo-pets have and create families. I believe the commercial said something to the effect of: "Now, you can start your very own 'Neo-Pets' family with (blankety blankety; something, something)!" (Neil cut the sound of the commercial off after the commercial mentioned that apparently, you could now have neo pet families). 

So Neil says "That's impossible, they don't even have crotches!",which got me thinking how He could possibly know anything how and where babies come from. So then I ask him, I say "And how would you happen to know anything 'bout that?". Then there was this long, awkward silence, and I got the feeling I should be leaving the room to go tell my mom about what just happened. That's just what I did, and when I went upstairs, she was casually sitting on her bed, and so I ask her if I can come in, and I tells her about the whole thing, and she seemed to take it so none-chalantly. She says "Well Bobby, I don't think we should Hide anything from him.", and then I says "Don't you think he's a little young to know something about this kind of thing?", and she took it with such passivity that I was outraged. This isn't simply about "Hiding things" from my brother, this is a matter of what an appropriate age to know that stuff is. So she's missing the point ENTIRELY! Furthermore, she said she didn't know what an appropriate age was. When I used an example and said "So what, do you honestly think it's not a good idea for someone who is six to know this?!" to which she simply responds yet again "I really don't know!". How is this possible, this is f*cking messed up! Please Help! What should I do now?
My adoptive mom (the mother I disgused just now) is in her early sixties!

ǝןqɐʇdǝɔɔɐun ʎןןɐıɔos · Accepted Answer

He isn't misinformed as far as I can see. He seems to comprehend that one would need the proper equipment in order to procreate and this is true. "Misinformed" would be if he said that they needed belly buttons or some such thing. 

Ten is plenty old enough to know about the basic mechanics of sex. He is not too young at this point. He ought to know so that he isn't REALLY "misinformed" and tricked into being abused somehow. You need to butt out and allow your mother to keep doing her job.

Χαλαρά · Answer

Chill out, your brother is ten.  At this point, it doesn't matter what your mother says or doesn't say, he's hearing it at recess and the school bus and it's in his best interest to know what parts he's heard are wrong and get informed.  Ten is about appropriate anyway.  Granted it's on the early side, it's is in the range of the start of puberty.

kate · Answer

In this day and age its dangerous for a child to be naive. he has friends in school that are talking. Hes at an age where he should be asking questions. if you make a big deal it closes down communication, which is something so important. Its when you teach a child that these things are dirty that you start to have problems. i would be willing to bet that your idea of an appropriate age ,also has children in that age group having sex. He could be exposed to these things in as little as 2 years. he needs to know whats appropriate. when he is ready, he needs access to condoms. would you rather he be afraid to ask and have unprotected sex? its no longer inappropriate its a necessity. try not to make him uncomfortable.

Kristal · Answer

How old were you when you learned about sex?

I was, like, six or seven. Granted I wasn't out having sex, and it wasn't something that I thought about a lot or talked about. But I knew what it was. 

What exactly did you want her to do? Have a fit? Drag him to the church and have him exorcised? Demand to know what TV show he saw that had sexual innuendos in it so that she can ban it from the family TV forever? Come on now. He's 10. He apparently already knows what sex is. Lying to him about it will only screw him up.

? · Answer

relax, i learned about sex when i was 5 on the playground, they taught us about it in the 5th grade, when i was 10, in health class, 10 isnt too young to know about that kind of stuff, i dont see what you have to go running to your mom about. as i said, i learned about it when i was 5 (in graphic detail), and it hasnt messed me up at all, im 18 and dont plan on having sex until im married so it hasnt turned me into a sex fiend or anything. leave it up to your mom and stop freaking out. 

by the way, i just caught you in the troll act, in the beginning you said that your brother is 10 and in the end you said that hes 6.

Olivia J · Answer

Stop overreacting - he's ten, not five. I'm sure he knows something about sex and procreation. Most schools start sex-ed around age 10/11 anyway, and I'm sure he hears a lot in the schoolyard.

It's not like he was talking about hookers, cocaine, and oral sex.. he was just making a joke about the toy not having the correct parts to procreate.

Jessa ~Noah&#39;s Momma · Answer

I don't  see a problem here. 
What do you want her to do? Lie to him? If he asks a question she should answer it truthfully. And it sounds like she has done that. 
I don't see where your brother was "misinformed about sex"

Bob - I&#39;m Almost 18 Ladies =) · Answer

Dude, this whole topic is retarded. It's not that big of a deal. I don't even know why your so "disgusted"...

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