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The woman I love refuses to accept my mother. Help?
After months of subtle wooing, the coworker I've found my affections pining after agreed to go on a date with me. I booked us a choice restaurant, called a cab and came 'round to greet her at the appointed hour.
Things were going along smoothly as we arrived at the restaurant and took our seats. I was fully confident I'd be able to make her my new life partner by the end of the night. Naturally, I had invited my mother to join us, seeing as how her and I are quite close, and was delighted to have the two main girls of my life by my side as we broke bread.
Unfortunately, my coworker and love, who we will call "Dances With Wolves" did not seem to share my enthusiasm. If anything, the mere presence of my docile mother seemed to weigh on her nerves. Shortly after that meal, she stopped returning my calls. I've repeatedly requested she come over and speak to my mother one-on-one for a minute or two, but she declines.
I don't understand. I thought our first date was wonderful. Why can't she accept my mother too?
9 Answers
- 1 decade ago
You asserted that she's met your mother only once and based on that one experience, she does not feel comfortable. Perhaps your mother said something to upset her? Something you didn't catch but she did? Naturally, your mother would always back you up because you are her son, so I am thinking she might have felt a little intimidated. Perhaps, you could ask her out on another date without your mother, then if she accepts, keep asking her out and leave any talks of your mother or how your love feels about her out of it. Then, when she gets use to you, slowly introduce your mother again. Give your love a second chance at sharing the same enthusiasm you have about your mother, BUT do it slowly.
I think bringing your mother along was too much of a jump. Let her get close to YOU first, then your mother.
I hope this helps and good luck!
- 1 decade ago
If you want a 'life partner' then ditch the mom. That is NOT a turn on when a guy brings his mom to meet the girl on the FIRST DATE. That's when only you two are supposed to connect. Don't have you mom come into the picture until you guys date for a while. No wonder you are single.
- 1 decade ago
in our life we have two different parts of life.
1. family life
2. personal life
both are different and we should try to keep them away from each other. everything cannot be shared with mother or family and somethings are there which we cannot share with our girlfriends.
when you brought your mother it was natural for her toget dishearted because she was not prepared at that time. if you bring your mother infront of your girlfreind at the time of dating or proposing then it shows that you are not confident and not self dependent. this thing cannot be tolerated by any girl that's why she is behaving like this. girls want brave man. keep this thing in mind for the next time.
- Uncle PedroLv 51 decade ago
It sounds like she was scared away by your mother being there, not that she didn't like your mother. She probably wasn't used to going on dates and meeting the parents right away. Call her back and explain to her that you have realized that it was odd (even though you may not think so) that you brought your mother along, and if you and her could go on another date, except mother-free.
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- NitzLv 51 decade ago
if your mom is docile..then there is something seriously wrong with the girl..trust me..if she can't stay with your mom..she doesn't deserve to stay in your life..
mother is most important..much much more important than a lady..u'll surely get better girls in your life..better to move on.the lady will come on her to u..if she really loves u..
don't go mad over her..
hope u understand what i m trying to tell..
i know its not easy..but still..u have to leave her..
all the best....
- 1 decade ago
one of the below
1. lock them in a room until they resolve their differences and come to an understanding.
2. If all else fails, play russian roulette with a .32 magnum. This way one of you will be happy.