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preschool and behavior?

My son is 3 1/2 and has been in pre-k 3, he loves it and seems to enjoy the half day schedule. If he listens and does not get a time out during the day the teacher gives him a sticker. When school first started he got stickers every day. Now, he seems to have issues with touching the other kids to get their attention. He isn't touching inappropriately or to hurt them, but it starts to get annoying to the other kids. The teacher is wonderful and reminds him him to keep his hands to himself once or twice before sitting him in time out, which means he doesn't get his sticker. He is old enough to remember that if he does get his sticker he gets a special treat at home so is he old enough to understand his action results in correction at home ? My son is very intelligent and has no other issues that either I, his teacher or his pediatrician are concerned about. He is very strong willed and I want to start putting expectations to his behavior but I want to make sure he is old enough to understand them.

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago
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    He's just exploring his boundaries, I wouldn't worry about it too much. Increase the importance of not touching by making his at home treat more rewarding and talking about what he is doing when he doesnt get his sticker. It'll pass though.

  • 1 decade ago

    He is old enough but for a 3.5 yr old just reminding him that he isnt getting his treat is like a punishment all in itself. Talk to him about 'using names' not hands to get peoples attention often... like incessantly. and ask him about it everyday... it will take about 2 to 3 weeks but if both you and the teacher stay on him about it, he'll break the habbit. Also, watch your behaviour at home. Use names not hands to get attention and make sure you make him do the same.

    All in all, if thats the worst he is doing, he seems like a pretty good kid.

    My daughter was pinching the quiet kid in the class, eating other kids snacks AND was the 'leader' of anywhere between 4 and 7 other little girls... yeah she was 4 year old maffioso at school. Within the month, applying what I suggested above, ALL those behaviours have stopped.

  • 1 decade ago

    i would discuss it with him when he gets home. ask him questions about it, and talk about it with him- and explain your expectations in his age terms,not a long drawn out conversation. i dont usually punish my kids again at home for something they were punished for at school. usually , losing recess, standing on the wall, losing movie or prize privledges etc. my son is 10 though, and if he gets in trouble @ school for the same thing 2x, then at home hes grounded, and usually doesnt do it again. however, a 3 year old i think is too young. i would discuss why he lost a sticker, and make sure he knows how proud you are of him when he does get a sticker, and remind him when you drop him in the morning. i dont agree with punishing kids 2x fr the same thing, if they only offended once..:0) if it continues, then i would talk to the teacher about what you could do. he may have a special friend that he cuts up with, or the opposite, he may be partnered with a child that he doesnt click with. i just dont think a 3 year old would understand what they are in trouble for if the punishment continues again at home ...i think that sort of thing is more appropriate for 5 years and up-

  • 1 decade ago

    He is trying to test some waters with you. Kids can be so manipulative and though at times they are told that it's incorrect, they will still do it because it attracts attention. Just continue to tell him that it's incorrect to bother his classmates that way. Keep on reinforcing the right behavior and try to explore as well what he gets out of misbehaving. Some kids intentionally misbehave so they can get any kind of attention from their parents and teachers. But with the right guidance and support, they learn.

    I totally know how you feel. At times my daughter is like that. She still does things that she already knows are against the rules. And since he's very intelligent, he can be a handful because he wants to try his hand at manipulating people. Just continue to guide him, he will be fine.

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    Lv 4
    4 years ago

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  • Lex
    Lv 7
    1 decade ago

    He is old enough to understand. Keep correcting him and maybe sit him down on your own and explain to him that if he keeps getting time outs he'll lose privileges at home or maybe a favourite toy will stay with you for a little while. Every child is different but he is old enough to understand and for you to correct the behaviour.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    You're underestimating your Son! he understands now it's just a matter of self control!

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