sex at 14? Can we do it if no one in the family minds?

What is the age of consent in your state ? It is usually 18 or 16.

So ? On that level ? The answer is no.

As far as morally ? No.

So. If your parents said it was OK with them if you robbed a bank or something ? Would you do it ?

See the link below for age of consent for sex throughout the world, including the USA.

Peace.

I don't know where you live, so I can't tell you whether it would be against the law in your area for you to have sex. But if you live in the UK or USA or New Zealand or Australia or Canada, it probably would be against the law. Most underage people who have sex get into trouble with the law when a family member or teacher makes a police report. If you are certain that your family and your boyfriend's family won't report you, then you probably won't get into trouble with the law. Even if someone does report you, the police are unlikely to act in this case because you and your boyfriend are both the same age and you are both willing to have sex.

That said, I'm very surprised that your family and your boyfriend's family don't care if their 14-year-olds have sex. I hope you are mistaken about that. If they really are OK with you having sex, then there is something wrong.

You need to consider this more carefully. Once you start having sex, things change. You will spend a lot more of your time and energy on your relationship. And of course you risk getting pregnant. Right now you should be putting your energy into doing well at school, making friends, and learning new hobbies. This is what you need to do to become a healthy adult.

I know many girls who started having sex at around your age. Most of them now say it was a mistake. Once they started having sex, they stopped thinking about school, friends, and hobbies. They drifted away from their families. Most of them ended up pregnant at a very young age. Most of them now have low-paying jobs, bad relationships or failed relationships, and little education. I would say that life is not fun for these women.

I know you are old enough to have sex physically. But I don't think it is a good idea. And I think your family is being very irresponsible towards you. Your family should be parenting you--giving you good advice and guidance so you can become a healthy, happy, independent adult. They are not doing this. So you should do it for yourself. My advice is, step back from your relationship and focus on other things for now.

I can see your mum's point of view, to a degree -in that you'd do it even if she said no and maybe somewhere not so safe as home, but I am amazed that she didn't try to talk you out of it. How about STDs? Never mind possible pregnancy...look at all the Yahoo questions from girls who have found themselves pregnant at 14! Go on, do a search. The best contraception in the world is not 100%.

If your mum won't protect you from this life changing decision. let commonsense guide you. Yes, you CAN have sex, but I'm sure you know in your heart of hearts that you SHOULDN'T just yet.

I agree with tony, i don't think it's a very good idea for multiple reasons. You're parents aren't very smart for letting you both do that, but i'm not saying you can't. Just make sure you know how to be careful, if you do decide.

Candy,

You can do it . . . your asking because you don't feel "Right" with the choice to do it.

If it isn't right don't . . . you have answered your own question.

You'll know when the time is right, your with the right person, not just a person. At your age so many choices to make, so many possible directions life can take . . .

Advice: wait on making life long choices till a bit more life experience is under your belt . . the more information your have, the more informed choices you can make.

Your parents SHOULD care. No protection is 100% I know this, I have a child that was unplanned and i was careful and I am an adult. Your just children, you may not feel like it, but you are.

I'm with Tony too, the biggest urge to make a teenager have sex is curiosity. Please do not do it. It is illegal until your 16. It can have very bad effects, it's very very early, what if something were to happen and you break up? You won't be able to live with that memory implanted in your head.

Please wait.

I had sex at twelve with my step cousin and got pregnant

just be careful. It will be you're great mistake if you catch STD, HIV and other sickness.

just wait for more couple of year