my boyfriend hides things i post on his facebook?

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It may seem a little trivial getting worked up about something on facebook, but this is really getting to me and i wondered what others thought about it.
Ive been in a long distance relationship (he lives about 300 miles away) with this guy for about 5 months now and he only recently added me as a friend on facebook. And he didn't want his relationship status on his facebook so he only added me as a friend.

I noticed right away that he immediately removed the 'activity' on his wall that said he was now friends with me so that no-one else could see it but i never said anything at the time. Then when he wrote on my wall and commented on my status he removed the bit on his wall where it says that he did. Today, I uploaded a photo of a paper swan that he made for me and tagged him in it. When he went online, he didn't un-tag the picture but he did delete the post from his wall. I asked him on fb chat why he hid the picture and his exact response was: 
"I DIDN'T! It's still in my tagged pictures isnt it!? Why is everyone being so off with me today, i've had such a sh*t day!" Then he went offline...
Am I right to be suspicious of this behaviour? It's like he just doesn't want my name to appear on his profile and i can only think of two reasons why someone would do this. 
Either:
1. He's ashamed of me and wants to hide me from his facebook friends
or
2. He doesn't want people to know he's in a relationship because he's keeping his options open
His initial reason for not adding me as a friend on facebook was because he said his most recent ex girlfriend was still obsessed with him and her dad was a psycho who would come after him if he upset her. This doesnt really make sense to me because if it was true, wouldn't he just delete his ex from facebook? 

We're both 19 and this is the first proper relationship i've ever been in. I'm not sure how to react.
Should i confront him? and if so, what should i say?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

you got 2 options..

1. recognise that this guy is hedging his bets and is not keen on showing the world that you are involved with him. get rid!

2. stop treating facebook as the be all and end all of a relationship! who cares about facebook? so he deleted his updates..so freakin what! maybe if you both spent more time actually hanging out rather than living in virtual limbo land you may realise that he isnt the one for you anyway or that he doesnt want you or that you are made for each other

facebook is evil... why you ask?
facebook is the middle man between you and your friends/boyfriends/girlfriends/family.  
remember that film crash with matt dillon? here is a quote:
"It's the sense of touch. In any real city, you walk, you know? You brush past people, people bump into you. In L.A., nobody touches you. We're always behind this metal and glass. I think we miss that touch so much, that we crash into each other, just so we can feel something."

Anonymous · Answer

A guy that wants to hide crap from you, or not want people to know who he's in a relationship with for whatever reason, isn't a good person to be with. ESPECIALLY when he makes you cry! He should be proud to have you as his girlfriend! And the whole facebook thing, if he doesn't want the world to know his business why the heck would he have a facebook? You'll never have privacy on a website. That's so contradicting. Good luck, but I don't think you need this guy in your life if he hurts you.

ihateaccounts · Answer

Honestly it's not worth it. Dump him. He is embarrassed of you or wants to hide you away. Think logically. If this is a long distance relationship wouldn't a good boyfriend want to display you to the world? not hide you away. He's an immature player. Leave him now before you become too attached. Also, when you asked him why he did it and he turned it around on you and said 'why is everyone being so off with me today, i've had such a sh*t day!" HE'S MANIPULATING YOU! and being selfish.

Jessav · Answer

Not all people are as mature and committed as you are.

I would choose the option 2, that he doesn't want people to know because he's looking for something where he lives.

I don't know you, but I bet you're a nice girl and you deserve someone that appreciates you and that will love to tell the world that you are together. I know it may be sad because you want to be with him, but think that you're worth a lot more than someone that doesn't want to aknowledge you as a girldfriend.

Jomari · Answer

On my personal opinion about your relationship with a guy whose 300 miles away from you, I could say that his not serious with you. Any guy who is true to his girlfriend would not hide her even in a social network site. He would be proud about it not deleting every post and comment so that no one would see it. I hate those reasons they tell us just to make our mouth shut. Just a little advice, don't get too attach to him.

Anonymous · Answer

Honestly maybe his friends dont know hes in a long distance relationship? Just talk to him about it. and if he acts like a b*tch then hes not worth it at all. ):

Toby · Answer

3. He has a private personality. He doesn't think that his romantic involvements are anybody else's business.

? · Answer

he's a player. players play. tell him to go play in some other yard, he is NOT in a relationship (with you anyway)

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