My dad just died :( and I blame my anti?

hello, stop blaming his sister,a heart attack can come any time,and its unfair to blame her because he was staying with her.you are angry,but put it behind you,and think of all those good times you had with your dad.and talk to your dad,as he will be watching over you,and can hear what you say to him.x

Hi I know exactly how you feel My mum died 3 weeks ago and the bottom of my world fell out. I too am regretting things like I was going to see her 2 days before she died but I never went because of a daft reason. Anger is part of grief and I am sorry to say you have a lot more feelings to experience yet. I don't think he would be alive if he was somewhere else. when Your time is up its up I am afraid. All I can say is talk to someone and cry as much as you want. If tears and wishing could bring my mum back she would be here, trust me i have tried, Hugs

Nobody "took" him - he went of his own free will. Putting the blame on someone else won't make you feel any better - it just adds bitterness to the list of things you are feeling at this moment.

When someone dies we often have this feeling of "I wish I'd said this" or "I wish I'd done that". You spoke to him just a few days before he died, you told him that you missed him and you had a nice conversation. It doesn't matter that you didn't say "I love you". Few people actually do that with family members. Just remember that one of the last things you said to him was that you missed him - that would have made him very happy.

I'm so sorry sweet hear! And don't blame your aunt...it wasn't her fault at all. I know how you feel, and i think about these things every day, really i do, i think would if that person died tomorrow! I would feel terrible, well i KNOW for a fact that your dad loved you with all his heart, and knew you loved him back! He knew...and he loved you so much. I can give you advice, but i can't heal your heart, only God can...so try praying! Hope this helps.

You can't blame his sister, if he was going to have a heart attack then he would have had it anytime- at home or at his sister, unless he had heart issues.

Of course he knew u loved him, actions speak louder then words.

Right now u r looking for somebody to blame, but ur auntie isn't the one, she is grieving just as you r , u need to be supporting each other, not putting on blame on her!

I'm so sorry for your loss. I know how you feel.

He definantly knew that you loved him so don't worry about that.

Don't blame her sweetie. She couldn't have known that he'd have a heart attack...it was just time. It is no one's fault.

My father past away a bit over a year ago...it's so easy to point the finger but it doesn't help anyone. You need to support family no matter what...

Abbi

Awhh babe, I'm so sorry for your loss :(

I'm sure your dad knows how much you love him and he's probably looking down on you right now wishing that you didn't feel guilty! You weren't to know what tragic events would unfold!

But I dong think you should be blaming his sister. Would he want you resenting her? Did she actually cause his heart attack?

God bless you and you dad <3 x

I'm sorry for your dad. I don't know your whole story, but in general, even if they do not show it, parents always love their children. Some just do not know how to show it. This is also true for children. Depends on the nature of each. So do not blame yourself. That was to be.

I am so sorry for your loss Listen sweetie it is easy to blame someone for the pain that you are feeling. It was not your aunts fault. Things happen and they hurt really bad. Of course your dad knows that you loved him. And he loved you. I wish you the best of luck, time will heal you but now its time to grieve. good luck .

Neither you or his sister have anything to blame yourselves for.

I'm very sure he loved you - he was planning to see you in the summer.

His heart was the problem!

All of us who've lost parents feel all the pain you are now enduring and have asked of ourselves the same questions you're wanting to resolve.