Male BFF what to do in a wedding? (bride)?

From hearing your side of the story, yes I think you have reason to be upset. If you are really best friends, I think you should at some point bring it up with her. Maybe you can make it sound a bit different such as

"You know BFF, let me know if you want me to help you out in any way besides usher. We've been good friends for so long and I'm so happy for you both. It would really be an honor if I could help you out even more on your special day. Just let me know"

etc..

Other than that, if you are not sure you want to "confront" her, I hope that at least hearing all of us validate your feelings helps.

Good luck.

Well in many weddings the groomsmen are most times the selection of the groom. Without knowing how many he had and who he opted for it may have just been an issue that usher was the only role they had room for you in.

Many people are also under the impression that the attendants of the the bride can only be female and the attendants of the groom can only be male. In modern times, this is not the case.

My BFF is also a guy and he is my man of honor and will be the one standing by my side when I get married since he's done it for everything else. When I got engaged there wasn't anyone else I wanted nor considered for the role, as unconventional as it may seem while I have other female friends I don't have the closeness nor bond with them that I do with him. He was the guy who came to visit me everyday in the hospital when I had surgery 100 miles away from home for a week, he was the one who was there for all my broken hearts, he was the one who didn't let me fall apart when my dad died after it he called me everyday (he was in the process of moving to another state at the time this happened) and he still calls me everyday. He was also the person who convinced me to give my now fiance a chance and go out with him because he seemed like a nice guy (I met my now fiance just 2 weeks after I ended things with a guy I had been with for 3 years) he said to me "He likes pancakes, sings disney tunes with children, he likes slurpees and he's really butch just like you like, what else do you want?" He helped plan my surprise proposal and he even helped to design my engagement ring with my fiance, to the point that a jeweler or two thought them to be a couple and my BFF's response to one of them is "I'm gay but he's too butch for me".

So yes you do have a reason to be a little upset but be gracious in your usher role even with that.

Honestly I think you do have a reason to be upset. I think everybody would think it very odd if you were the maid of honor, so I do understand why she asked her new friend to be one. I think you should be one of the groomsman. Honestly, since she doesn't have more female friends, that would also allow for a girl from the grooms side like a sister/cousin/friend to be another bridesmaid. And offcourse you still ushering some of her close female relatives like her mother would be nice too.

You should tell her that that would mean a lot to you and hopefully she can make you a groomsman. However if the groom already has like 7 best friends and they don't want the wedding party to be half of the guests at the wedding, it may be something that cannot happen and you can't be mad at her for it.

There are pleny of girls with brothers that they're close too, who end up being just ashers. So like I said you should tell her that you want more, but can't be mad at her if she can't make it happen.

Well, I'm clearly not aiming for best answer, but I think you're being silly. It's often said that there's nobody who ever should feel entitled to a position in a wedding, including sisters. Even though you have been her Best Friend, there are still plenty of people who would not feel comfortable with a male MOH. And this is their right. As for groomsmen, these are people closest to the groom, not the bride.

You seem to think that because you're male, you're entitled to something that nobody else would be. If you were her sister or her college roomie, I'd be telling you to grow up and let her make these choices. So I guess I'm saying the same thing here. The wedding is about her, not you.

you should be honored to even be invited. quit being petty and thinking you have a higher place in the wedding party when you don't. you're lucky you will be able to be there and celebrate with your friend on the most important day of her life. yes she could have made you one of her attendants, but you're still technically in the wedding party as an usher so just accept it and be nice.

I completely understand why you are mad. I would be too if I were in your situation. Maybe she wants the wedding to look traditional like have all girls on her side and all guys on his side. I don't know but I would talk to her about it if I were you.