How do I tell my 8 year old that her dad and I are not getting remarried?

im sorry to hear about your situation,i agree with not getting back together with your husband is not for the best because if your not happy then in the long run your daughter wont be.I was not married to my daughters father and when she started asking why daddy and i don't live together with her i just explained that we both love her very much but we are only friends now so have different houses.i got her this book to try and explain and she seemed to be happier about it

http://www.littleparachutes.com/book.php?id=42

You need to be tactful when you explain this to her, keep your personal opinions of your ex-husband to yourself. Just tell her "Look sweetie, your father and I aren't getting back together, we havent been getting along for a long time, and it's best for all of us that we don't get remarried. That doesnt mean things have to change, you'll still have both of us in your life, we are forever connected because of you, but were just not getting re-married and thats the way it's going to be".

You can tell her that though you know that she would like you and her father to get back together that it's just not going to work out again, that sometimes it's better for two people to be apart than together.

And I understand about not getting back together with him, it's better for a child to have one parent that succeeds in raising them, rather than two that fail!

Just gentally explain sometimes Mommies and Daddies don't get along and do better as friends. Don't sugar coat it too much, keep it plain and simple so she can understand.

Just break it to her, gently but straightforward, tell her "me and your dad will always love you and we will be friends, but we are much happier as friends then as husband and wife, we will not be getting back together"

hard question, hard answer. I found this site that hopefully is a jump start for you :

http://www.chatfirst.com.au/parents/03_1_tellingch...