Bridesmaid Dilemma Please Help?

In the wedding, have them on opposite ends of the female line.

For the reception have them sit at different tables.

Tell them that it's just a few hours then they can go back to their lives.

There's a difference between "no longer talking to each other" and "absolutely hate each other". You're acting like they hate each other or something. Not talking to each other isn't a big deal. It'd be like having 5 bridesmaids except 2 of them being a complete stranger to the other. Meaning, they'll probably talk at some point but won't be all "Hey, former BFF!" to each other.

I say just invite all 5 of them to be your bridesmaids without hesitation. All the bridesmaids won't really be doing anything together, anyway, besides taking pictures together, so the 2 BMs that aren't friends don't have to interfere with the other.

Besides, this is YOUR wedding. Your bridesmaids should be your friends; it doesn't matter if the bridesmaids are friends with each other or not. They're there to support you through your wedding and that's it. If they end up fighting over it (which I highly doubt) then consider replacing them with other attendants.

You invite them both over your house without letting either of them know that the other is going to be there.

You sit them down and tell them that you love them both and want to ask each of them to be in your bridal party but are afraid there will be drama due to their individual relationship with one another. Ask them to be in your bridal party but not to give you an answer then and there so they can think about if they can be civil during your wedding planning and your wedding day. Let them know that this will be their choice, not yours. And, if they do accept and the drama begins, they will both be booted out of the bridal party because this is a glorious time, not a time for cat fights.

tell them you love them both and you want them both in the wedding - if they really care about you,they'll put aside their animosity for one day.they don't have to even stand next to each other,much less have a whole conversation.just a simple 'hi' would be enough

if they don't or can't put their issue with each other to one side to support you,then have neither.3 maids is enough.you run the risk of adding to the drama and losing a friend if you only ask one of them.make it clear that they are to play nice,for your sake,and that you have no qualms about removing them from the wedding party,the ceremony or the reception should they cause trouble

Talk to them both and see if they might be willing to cooperate with each other for your special day. I don't know the circumstances of why these two girls dislike each other now, but if they truly care about you, maybe they would be willing to put aside their differences in the time before your wedding.

Their falling out is not your business. If they are both your friend, you will not take sides or show favoritism.

Ask them both. Whether they accept or not, is up to them. They should be able to put their difference aside for your wedding. If they cannot, then you know what kind of friend they are.

Be an adult. Don't get involved.

Ask them both, but make it clear to both that you don't care what they think of each other, your wedding is not the time or the place for them to have a childish fight with each other over some unimportant crap.

Don't let their drama ruin your special day. Explain to each of them that you would be honored to have her in your wedding, but for them to get along for your sake that day.Maybe they'll become friends again.

Consider their maturity levels. Can they be adult enough to temporarily put their drama to the side? If not, don't ask both or their drama will become your drama.

I say talk to them separately and ask if they can "coexist" for oneday to celebrate your love with your hubby. If they say No then you have your answer. Congrats!!!!