Sofia V

I have five close friends whom I plan to have as my bridesmaids. The problem is that two of them no longer talk/or are friends. Needless to say, I don't know how to tell them that I want them both in my bridal party. I am actually considering to NOT ask one of them to be part of my wedding in order to avoid anyone feeling uncomfortable. I really don't want to do this. I want both of them to be part of my special day. One i have known since junior high and been through a lot together. Both have been there for me in very difficult times. I love them both dearly and I would want them to be my bridesmaids.

Is it fair for a man to tell his girlfriend (after she has decided to break up with him) : "you know, I wasn't going to tell you this, it was supposed to be a surprise, but Im gonna tell you now. I was planning to propose to you on your birthday" (FYI: birthday is a month away).

Girlfriend feels this was unfair and BS! But guys out there! please give me some kind of explanation for this! Why are some men such cowards and fools? And say things to a woman only when they know they are loosing them forever?

Just curious!

If you find out your girlfriend/boyfriend went to strip clubs in vegas, signed up for multiple online dating networks, communicated with old girlfriends/boyfriends (flirting, asking to set him/her up with other people) while you were on a break, would you be upset? Consider this hypothetical scenario- long term realtionship (4 yrs) with a couple breaks in between. Boyfriend/Girlfriend made it seem to you that they were miserable with out you and begged you to give them another opporutunity, but only to find out later this was their behavior while on the "break". Would you find that hypocritical or totally justifiable? Also, you on the other hand HAS been miserable during your break up times.

Thanks!

If you find out your girlfriend/boyfriend went to strip clubs in vegas, signed up for multiple online dating networks, communicated with old girlfriends/boyfriends (flirting, asking to set him/her up with other people) while you were on a break, would you be upset? Consider this hypothetical scenario- long term realtionship (4 yrs) with a couple breaks in between. Boyfriend/Girlfriend made it seem to you that they were miserable with out you and begged you to give them another opporutunity, but only to find out later this was their behavior while on the "break". Would you find that hypocritical or totally justifiable? Also, you on the other hand HAS been miserable during your break up times.

Thanks!

We hear about wedding, baby shower, bridal shower gift registries. Would it be appropriate to have a birthday gift registry for a 30th birthday celebration event? What do most people think? Would you do it?

Do married men NEED to travel with out the wife once in a while? For example, VEgas trips with the guys (married buddies and single) or anywhere out of state. Is it really necessary for your well being or is it just to get away from the wife/kids? What do you think is fair in terms of frequent trips (i.e. per year). Or is there some underlying issue that makes you want to "get away" all the time (for those who do travel often without your spouse). And lets be honest here..please..looking for true honest answers. What would consider reasonable traveling for married couple , with out eachother. Of course, considering that there is trust and no major issues in the relationship.

For those women who are married (newlywed and not)....what is normal when it comes to your spouse traveling without you (non-business/work related). Are you okay with your husband taking trips with his buddies (anywhere)? Whats the minimum or the maximum times he should travel with out you in your opinion? Of course, assuming that you trust them and that finances are not a problem.

if anyone just saw the episode of grey's anatomy - can you tell me what grey's last closing words were? Something related to the past.....???

Any one out there know of a good movie that portrays relationship conflicts and the struggles that couples go through (trust, compromises, etc). Something inspiring yet realistic.

I am attending a party where I will more than likely see a girl that my boyfriend dated in the past. I usually dont have issues with this, but the fact that my boyfriend lied to me about his history with her (i found out through a mutual friend of mine and hers- small world)...makes me feel weird about it. Any recomendations? someone who had experienced this?

Thanks

In a nut shell: I have a boyfriend of three years. Our trust was damaged in the past due to a text message he found in my cell phone asking a male friend to meet myself and other friends for a drink (note: boyfriend was not official at that time but was exclusive dating). Since, then, the trust has never been 100%...on both sides. We are still together, but my boyfriend has always had a problem with social networks(my space, FB, etc). Not sure if its always been a problem with his other relationships or only with me. He had asked me to delete a particular male from my facebook because he simply does not like him (gives him a bad vibe). After much explaining and tears...(tears were mine mainly out of frustration and anger) that he had nothing to worry about- which he doesnt, I decided to delete this person. I care about my boyfriend, I love him, and so i did it. However, I feel like I betrayed myself in a way. I wasnt doing anything wrong and I would never do anything to jeopordize our relationship. So why would I have to do something like that for him to believe me? All I hoped is that my boyfriend would trust me without me having to delete a friends profile. But he coudlnt. He needed that proof. So I did it. I feel now like I did something I didnt want to do, and the only reason I did it was for him to be happy. But Im not sure that it has made myself so happy. I feel like I was not true to myself , to what I stand for. Being who I am no matter what. If I know that I have nothing to hide, then I have nothing to prove - this is my philosophy in life. But I have contradicted myself and now I feel worse. What to do?

A girl tells a guy "I'm gonna go have dinner" and his response is " ok, go stuff your face"...should the girl be offended? Is this deragotary in any way?

My boyfriend is 40 and I am 29. I love him and I can totally see myself marrying him (vice versa). But I suddenly got this crazy idea as to why he has no kids...in a way im happy....better for me because I dont think i would marry anyone with kids that are not mine. But on the other hand, its still rare that he doesnt have children especially since he was engaged and was in a 16 year relationship (high school sweethear kinda thing) and most men at 40 usually have kids already. I started thinking what if he cant have chidlren? Anyway, I want to make sure that he is able to have children before we take that step but I want to talk to him about it without making him feel bad. I really want children of my own and Ithink it would be a huge issue if he cant procreate. How do i bring this up? We have talked about having children and he says he want kids but i still have that itch in me. Am I crazy?

Okay. I bought a mug at a concert 9my favorite artist) and it has a warning label that it may contain lead. Now, I am aware of the harm that lead can cause on children, the health effects, etc etc...but really (an expert advice) ....How bad is it for adults. I don't drink coffee everyday but I would like to use it once in a while. Can I? or is too risky for adults as well? The mug only has paint on the outside...and its galzed as well.

heLP!!

domestic flight.

i just got my apt fumigated and i'm not sure how soon it is safe to put all my food back in the pantry, clothes in the closet, dishes back, etc. The pest control company said 4-5 hours after should be okay. But I can smell it in the kitchen. They also said that not to scrub anything because that will defeat the purpose. Im very paranoid when it comes to stuff like this...

any advice or suggestions? Is it still harmful to humans after several hours?

Is it normal for two grown men to go swimming alone in a pool at night......

This guy Im dating was doing that last night and just want to get some male opinions. It just seemed weird to me.

I have had braces for 28 months with an ortho where staff has no professionalism or compassion for their patients. I will not discuss all the details but the only reason I have stayed is because I didnt want my treatment to delayed. So I stuck it out. They changed ortho doctors like 5-6 times which delayed my treatment anyway because they all started different things on me. Finally, I have had it. The new doctor is a jerk and watches TV while he is working on me. I really want to change ortho doctors but is that a good idea.

Any ortho experts out there- can you give advice. I already payed about $2500 and its all paid off. So really I will have to pay more money which was another reason I didnt leave. But I am willing to pay more as long as these braces come off soon. My teeth are straight already with a couple of gaps but I can't stand the service anymore. I know other people whose teeth were worse and they have theirs off already.

Please HELP

I have been an intern at a middle school and would like to give back by giving the staff a thank you gift. Any suggestions would be appreciated. Preferable a group gift rather than individual gifts.