Accused of child abusing?

Your friend should have his lawyer get copies of all the voicemails & call logs from the kids, with the parents' permission, of course. A statement from each of them would also be helpful. Not only can this be taken to the judge to show a history of abuse (the mother's) and lying to ask for a lack of custody, but can also be used to sue her civilly for defemation. Your friend NEEDS to call his attorney.

Unfortunately divorcing parents frequently use their kids to punish each other. Not only does it do a lot of damage to the parents, it destroys the kids. It puts the kids in a terrible spot, to have to say things about their parents and to take sides. Having said all that, the issues of child custody take into consideration many different things. And the Courts make the decisions. These decisions by the courts are based on evidence, written and oral testimony. It has to be presented to the court and the parties have the opportunity to present contradictory evidence and to cross examine witnesses. So what you are describing certainly sounds like the mother is not acting in a healthy manner toward her daughter. This may or may not be grounds for awarding custody to the father. But these things will be decided by the courts, not the people who give you answers here.

Your friend would be wise to speak to his lawyer before speaking to minors again. His interaction with minors and giving minors contracts can be illegal. Minors cannot sign contracts. And, unless under police interrogation cannot sign statements to be used in court without a parent at least present and most likely with the parent's written consent. So, he could have already screwed up.

Additionally, in some states two party conversations can be taped if one party is aware but in others, both parties must be aware. So those taped conversations may be illegal. Putting whoever taped them in hot water with the law.

Instead of play private dick and attorney, he should have an attorney and ask advice as to what to do PRIOR to doing it so he does not end up screwing himself out of money, custody, time and freedom (jail time).

She is not being a danger to the child in the sense that DHS or CPS can remove the child immediately. But if true, then that is interfering in his relationship with his child. But that is neither here nor there right now. First the attorney, then do what the attorney says, and then court. Nothing else to do but follow the letter of the law. And since he is unaware of the total law regarding all of these issues, follow the attorney.

What do I think? I think that often we love to think we know our friends and family members so well. But we do not know what goes on behind closed doors. Nor will we ever. And in any divorce there are three sides. His, hers and the truth. She shades her stories to shine a positive light on her. And he shades his to shine a positive light on him. And, with a child that goes a long with the abuse allegations, then you have a child who either has suffered some abuse (to what extent, YOU will never know) or is resentful and angry with the person she alleges abused her. Either way, she needs counseling right now. Not after custody is decided. In a perfect world you could believe your friend. And pass judgment that she is totally wrong. But last I looked, the world is not perfect. And you are not omnipotent.

Sounds like both the daughter & soon-to-be-ex need major HELP!!

I agree with above I don't think this is grounds for losing custody, but possibly grounds for less custody & some warded counseling.

The girl is 13 & should know by now what she did is wrong & hurtful, so hopefully she will change & realize her mom is crazy & needs help.

Good luck to the dad as he needs it...sounds like this battle is not over.

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He should have had his attorney present AND a representative from Child Protective Services to document everything, otherwise if the children back down and don't write statements, or if the daughter does not want to testify, it would have been on record with the state. It is still down to a he said, she said right now.

If he can support the charge, if he presents it to the court he will gain a huge advantage in custody. What the mother did is called interference in parenting and courts take it very seriously.

" I just don't know if falsely accusing your husband of severe child abuse and trying to manipulate a bunch of 13 year olds would be grounds to lose custody."

It could be.

no i doubt she will lose custody for that, nor should she.

it was pretty bad, but the 13 y o girl had a choice say it or not say it.

if this girl was close to her father she never would have said it.