I want to place my baby into adoption, but father is unfit?

It is different from state to state, but all states allow for the involuntary termination of paternal rights (sounds like you are not married to the father of the child. It can be harder when you are married). This basically means you wouldn't need him to agree to anything, just explain why you want to terminate his rights.

The grounds for this involuntary termination vary but some of the bigs things that are common across all states are felony convictions, abusive relationships and failure to support you and the child through pregnancy.....some or all of which seem to be the case from your question. It certainly doesn't sound like you are going to need to worry about this if you are serious about going through with an adoption.

You are right about him needing an attorney and needing to go to court. He'll get a notice of the termination of his rights and he'll need to file an objection and then turn up to court. The good news there is that the burden of proof is on him. He needs to prove what you are saying is not true, and needs to prove he has been supporting you and your child throughout the entire pregnancy (or since he has known you were pregnant)

Forget the baby to his parents, basically like an adoption thing. It's irrelevant, that will never happen unless you agree to it, even if he somehow can get the adoption stopped. You don't need to record anything, like I said you don't need to prove anything.

You really need to talk to an attorney in your state, but it certainly seems like you'll be fine.

Keep a written account of his actions. You should have called the police when he threw you three days ago. That way, if there is a police report, you have a better shot in court getting him to relinquish his rights. Personally, I would talk to a lawyer. You can't afford not to talk to one about something as so serious as this. DO NOT GIVE THE BABY TO HIS PARENTS! It is not his parents job to raise this child. Do every thing you can to place this child with an adoptive couple. You may be able to move into a home for people thinking of placing their children. After the adoption, find the strength to become more independent and to pick better people. You are a role model for your children, remember that and best of luck to you!

Yes, you should record all of these things. If I were you, I would disappear while he is not home. Organize all of your things so they are easy to move. Don't you have parents?Family?Friends? See if you can more in with someone while you get back on your feet. Is he the father of the other two? If he is, you need to prove that he is unfit by getting proof of abuse-pictures, recording, police files etc. Also, as some others said, check out women's shelters. You need to get out asap. DO NOT put his name on the birth certificate. You should move out so that he cannot find you and cannot claim the baby. You should put it up for adoption, if you feel you can't take care of another kid right now. Just say you don't know who the father is. I know it's shoddy, but you need to do whats best for you, your children, and your new baby. Good luck, I wish you the best.

If u called the cops on him no he cud not take the baby in custody cuz if he abuses u they won't allow him to take the baby. U cud always go to a womans shelter they can help u out an ur kids. An u wud probably b more safer there. I use to b in an abusive relationship so I kno how u feel. But he shud not put his hands on u at all. But for u and ur kids safety u shud really check out some woman shelters an call the cops on him so he can never hurt u again. I don't think he wud b able to stop the adoption as long as u report him to cops for wat he has done to u then he cud deff not get custody of the baby or stop the adoption. But best of luck to you hope u stay safe and get away from that crazy guy.

If I knew someone wanting to do an open adoption with me... They would have a place to stay and I would take care of everything for the mom and other children not only until the baby was born but well into moms recovery as well. Can't you get your adoptive couple to help? Either way I would definitely report the abuse immediately. Are you not doing this for fear of losing a place to stay? I hope you make the best choice for your safety and they safety of ALL of you..your children and unborn child and make that call... what ever your reason is... Its not worth putting your life at risk.

It probably depends on the state, but I believe that the father wouldn't have any decision in that, and especially if hes violent. You should talk to a counseler wh specializeses in this kind of thing. BUT I think adoptionon is a beautiful choice, I am 18 and was put up for adoption as a baby and was reunited with my birth mother at 16 and I have a great relationship with both my families! Good luck!

You need to call the local domestic violence hot line. Given that you are pregnant and have two young children, they may be able to get you into a safe house. You also need to start a paper trail. Have you ever filed for a protective order? The next time he hits you, call the police. Document the battery. If you don't call the police, at least take pictures that are date/time stamped. You need to start collecting documentation/evidence because he won't stop hitting you. He especially won't stop doing it now that he has physical control over you since you moved into his house. He knows you don't have anywhere to go. He knows that he can use your kids against you. He isn't going to become father of the year.

Abuse is all about control. And if you leave him, he might very well use the adoption as a way to control you. He probably won't give a damn about you or the baby but he can drag this out long enough in court, to make your life miserable. This is another reason why you have to start documenting things. If you go into court and you say "he abuses me" and you have no proof, there is nothing the judge can do about it. The "father" can say that you are being vindictive because you want to give the child up for adoption but he loves the child and wants to raise it but you are just trying to hurt him. In fact, he can point to the fact that he was letting you live in his house....presumably rent free and with him paying most the bills, as a way to show the judge that he was trying to take care of you. He can play this scenario in a way to make himself look good and he could conceivably come out of this with custody of the child.

So, tomorrow, call the domestic violence shelter. Ask to get in. Go with just the clothes on your back and any necessary paperwork (ie birth certificate, insurance cards, wic vouchers, food stamps etc). If you need more, you can get a police escort to go back later. If you don't leave, at least go to the shelter and ask them for legal advice and for a safety plan so you can survive the next time he starts hitting you because he will.

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In a normal situation you cannot put the baby up for adoption without the father's consent.

But since he's abusive, it might be different.

Unfortunately abused women hope the guy could change and prefer to stay hoping things will get better. Do what these people told you TaKe off for good. Don't be sad.