Why do pl say put your spouse before your parents, siblings, etc, when they're blood and spouses aren't?

Shouldn't your spouse understand and respect your family as you should there's I mean there are ciricumstantial situations yes but for the most part respect to family its duty and this is why they are your spouse to support not me not you our problems. Right? why I look at it from a larger perspective. Because I am not selfish. People now day not thinking being so selfish. You find the balance to make your family situation better not just yours. Why bring up religion its opinion on opinion?

I don't think it's a matter of putting your spouse before your parents or siblings but being adult enough to realize that in every situation there is a less right person and knowing when to back that person and when not to. A good spouse would never make you choose with a few exceptions. I realize these days there are so many parents that like to bleed their children dry. Also you are clearly not ready for a serious marriage if you believe that divorce is an option! When you get married you should believe it is forever and if you don't believe that then don't marry them!

Your spouse should ALWAYS come first. No other person do you pledge 'till death do us part'. They are the father/mother of your children. They are the ones who will take care of you and be your companion through life and old age. To be quite honest, your parents are each others everything when they get older, and your friends hopefully have their own special somebodies. I think if you don't feel that way about your spouse, you probably shouldn't marry/or have married them.

Please quit asking this question over and over.

So you want real life huh? Well the real life answer is the spouse should put the other spouse first. After all your one who will be changing their diaper when they are 80 yrs old not family members. Right? Your the one cooking and cleaning year after year not their parents or kids YOU. But the real life answer is your spouse who might be a step parent to your kids won't be first the kids will be. That wife of yours will come in second due to mom getting old and needing you or calling you constantly you won't turn your back on your mom. She gave birth to you. So you can question this till the cows come home but that is life.

1. the bible isn't contradictions - they are fulfillments of each other - when u read it in disbelief u will never get it - its a faith based book

2. u vow to forsake others

3. a real spouse would understand when parents need u they need u and won't jump in the way ...but o another hand ....u shouldn't neglect ur spouse for family at the drop of a hat

It's in the bible in the book of genesis that once you get married you are supposed to leave your parents behind and become one with your spouse. Ask God why.

YES there are going to be situations when your birth family does need to have first priority , BUT that has to be exceptional circumstances - not on a daily basis.

You choose a partner & make a new family with them just as your parents & their parents have done before you.

If a person puts their family of origin ahead of their husband or wife... they might as well NOT marry because it will not work. You choose a life partner and you start your own family. A couple make decisions and life plans together. You can love your family, help them, spend time with them, but if they are FIRST.... then you are NOT building a new family.

You pick your spouse...your parents did the same thing...

Nobody says you can't visit your parents more often.

When you and your spouse made your vows to each other, you promised to "forsake all others".

This means you put each other FIRST.