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I hate my friends crush!Please read!?
My friend has a crush on her ex bf, her first one. She likes him again, she didnt want me to know but i found out and she knows i know. When he broke up with her last year he exposed their relationship and made her seem awful and she was really heartbroken and she didnt speak to him for a long time. Now they are friends and she likes him again but i seriously hate him after what he did to her because he's a jerk literally! She tells him something that he shouldnt tell anyone else and he tells it to the person she was talking about and he adds parts from his mind! He always insults me, (I do the same back) Because i seriously think he is not nice. I have a feeling that this second chance she is willing to give him isn't a good thing because he broke her heart brutally before and i know this guy, so he can do it again! Its annoying because he takes her away from me even when i am sitting right next to her she gives me her back and talks to him the whole lesson! I tell her to shut up constantly but she goes quiet for 10 seconds then continues and luckily a guy on our table moved or else i would have been sitting somewhere else because she wanted him next to her and for most of the day i'll be sitting alone bored in the back of the room! I just hate him because he's awful to me and he was awful to her and me and her have been best friends for 6 years now! on friday after school she invited me over to her house i have tennis later but my training is near her house and she wants me to come and him! Because her parents say no boys unless a girl is there (she doesn't count) because when he came over to her house in the summer they made out and her parents got really mad. So now because of him she is using me, I tried respecting her desicion of liking him and told her i'll see if i can come but i can do it i can't the guy is just seriously annoying me, his very existence in the same area as me annoys me! i don't speak to him unless she's there then he insults me and i of course do the same to him because i am not going to not defend myself!
There's a chance that he says yes and he sees her tomorrow but that means it is at her house and i have to go too! Please Help! Thanks!
3 Answers
- 9 years agoFavorite Answer
If he is there dont go, even though you feel as if you are protecting her you have to respect that she is falling in love again. Though, you must remind her that he has hurt her before and you can gurantee that he will hurt her again. Tell her how you feel before and tell her you dont want this to end up in a fight. Also, what age are you guys...junior high or high school or college.How serious is this?
- 9 years ago
Well, sad reality is that the majority of the time when a friend, especially your BFF falls for some guy, ANY guy, you are more times than not gonna be left in the dust for awhile. If she's as boy crazy as she sounds like she is then she's started taking for granted the fact that you are always gonna be around to pick up the pieces.
Believe me I totally know how you feel! You wanna chase him off for hurting your best friend and you wanna strangle her for falling for the creep again. But well, she's gotta make her own mistakes, but in the meantime don't let her walk over your friendship.
Here's the perfect opportunity to get her attention long enough to tell her how you feel. Since she needs you to be there for this guy to show up. So ask her why in all seven hells is she falling for the same fool who made her so miserable the last time? Then just explain to her that you are worried about her and you totally don't trust things will turn out alright this time around. Therefore, you aren't gonna do anything to support her. Which means no coming over just so he can come over too.
Yea, she'll be mad at you for awhile. But when he totally breaks her heart and smashes it into a thousands pieces guess who she is going to end up running to?
I always tell my friends the truth because while it may end up with them mad at me initially, I really don't want to hear them say, "Why didn't you tell me that?!" You're her best friend. In a position to say things others normally couldn't say.
Oh, and while your at it. You can warn that jerk too not that you'll necessarily beat him up, but just that you were in the picture before him and you'll be in the picture after him but in the meantime he ain't pullin the same tricks twice.
- 9 years ago
I imagine the best answer would be to tell you to suck it up because whatever makes your friend happy is best for both of you, but I can't do that.
I'm something of a petty person, and sometimes I think that friends should let friends know when they're being stupid, so here's my suggestion.
SABOTAGE.
This might require some creativity, but if this guys truly is the *** you say he is, I think you owe it to your friend to ruin things for her.
One particularly effective method would be to have a cute girl you know openly flirt with him and convince him to do something physical when you can have proof of it. Like perhaps sending her a nude pic.
