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Your child is in college, and NOT making the grades we want, what do you do?
Yelling isn't working.. can we contact his or her instructors and get a conference set up. It is OUR money and we want results not hangovers.
Opps should read OUR child --sorry
It is hard to remember she is supposed to be an adult. I guess we need to adjust our thinking. We still act like she needs us to watch out for her and not not let her fall.
Cutting off the money for her education would be scary for all of us, but it may have to be done. She might find out she doesn't want a career in a department store or fast foods. Or worse.
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- John SmithLv 49 years agoFavorite Answer
She is an adult. This isn't high school anymore. You don't set up a parent teacher conference to get her grades up. It's HER life, it doesn't matter if you are paying her education. Again, she is not a child. Like yelling at your adult child is going to do anything. Is she slacking off or is she actually trying to get good grades?
- Jennifer LLv 79 years ago
See, this is the problem when parents pay for kids' college tuition.
You probably cannot get a conference set up with the teachers because your "child" is an adult. High school is over.
I say that you stop paying for tuition next semester. Your child is obviously not ready to go to college yet. Stop wasting your hard-earned money and let him/her go work in the real world for a year or two.
- MLyndaLouLv 69 years ago
Contact the school & see about a meeting. But be aware that by college the teachers are usually not going to get involved with making a student motivated. If it were me I'd tell my child they have until a certain date to pull up his/her grades. If that doesn't happen, stop paying for school.
- royalbirdLv 69 years ago
I think it's absolutely wrong for parents to get involved once the adult child is in college. It is inappropriate. These students are adults and their professors expect them to deal with their problems, not their parents to come in and handle it for them. If you are paying, threaten to withhold paying anymore until they get their grades up. That's why I think people should pay for their own college education because they take it more seriously when it's their own money they're forking over for it.
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- Anonymous9 years ago
Stop paying for it....
Seriously, I don't get why American's feel the need to pay for their kids' college. In the UK we don't pay for their Uni fees.... Your kid is having a free ride, and he knows it.
However- unless you specifically told your child that your monetary support would only continue as long as grades are being met, then you're going to have a kid that resents you when you do pull that funding from him.
- 9 years ago
Are you sure that your expectations are realistic? It could be that he/she isn't trying or it could be that he/she is struggling. Try talking to your child to see if there is anything you can do to help him/her improve.
