Do I have Avoidant Personality Disorder? And if I do, is there anything that can be done about it?

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First off, let me apologize if this is a big mess of TL;DR. I'm having a bit of trouble getting my thoughts together to explain everything.

Just lately I found out about this disorder, and it seems like everything fits with me with all of the symptoms, but I wanted some outside opinions. 

I am a fifteen years old male, and for the longest time now I've been having problems with social situations. I feel completely inept with almost all social encounters, with holding a conversation, eye contact, physical cues, that kind of thing. I can understand them when others do them but I am just lost when it comes to anything myself. Most of the time when I am talking to someone in real life, the majority of everything I say will be simple replies such as "yeah", "no thanks", and so on. I just can't hold a conservation. On top of all of that I have a terrible fear of rejection, and I do everything I can not to reveal anything about myself. I'm always imagining that people are having ulterior motives and talking about me behind my back. So I have a hard time trusting people as well. Most of this is completely irrational. I haven't been bullied or any way or have any reason to fear anything. But I do.

Because of issues like these, I tend to completely avoid social encounters. I have only one actual friend in real life, and a couple online. And the one in real life isn't close at all to me. I'm terrified enough of social encounters that I'm currently being home-schooled. Along with all of this, I'm scared of new situations and go to great lengths to avoid them. And don't get me wrong, it's not that I just prefer to be alone and isolated. I want to have friends, more than almost anything really. To the point where I have tried to convince myself that I have different disorders and want myself to be sick, along with making up exciting stories as if it would make people care.

Last of all, I've had bad depression for a couple years now. My self-esteem is absolute crap, I never stop beating myself up over every mistake I make, and at times I honestly hate everything about myself. I've even considered suicide before because of all this. I'd never actually do anything, but I would be always thinking about it (I'm past that now). 

So just lately I found out about Avoidant Personality Disorder, and it seems like everything fits. I haven't talked to a professional about it, but I'm just looking for other opinions.

So, that's about it. What do you guys think? Could I actually have the disorder or some other one, or am I just being a shy whiny-b*tch because of hormones or something?

(For anyone who has read all of this to the end: thanks. It really means alot, even if you don't comment.)

Anonymous · Answer

Im sorry to tell you this, but yeah you do have an Avoidant Personality Disorder. 

Everything you explained fits perfectly. Your severe social anxiety is very clear and i recommend you see a psychologist really soon so you can start to recover slowly. 

Good luck :)

Melina · Answer

Sounds like it. But only a therapist could diagnose you.

Please don't ever try to kill yourself!! Imagine how your loved ones would feel. The anguish would never end for them. It would take a PERMANENT TOLL on them.

You don't have to kill yourself! You can have “a life” in JESUS (John 10:9-10) 

In Jesus, life can be far better and peaceful, but the first step is to never give up on yourself! 

PLEASE, pray to Him (Jesus.) Pour out your heartaches to Him. Trust me, Jesus Christ will HEAR your prayer, and can (with time,) heal ALL of your wounds. 

Put your trust in Him, that He CARES about you, and will listen to your concerns. He LOVES you so much and even knew you when you were in your mother's womb!

"Before I formed you in the womb I knew you...." - Jeremiah 1:5.

No matter who you are, God LOVES you and wants to give you a FUTURE and everlasting life. 

“For God so loved the world, that He gave His only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in Him should not perish, but have everlasting life.”

That being said, suicide is a SIN. A sin that will send you to Hell (a place of eternal punishment and a place that there's no escape from.) 

All those who reject Jesus Christ and die in their sins (and suicide,) will be cast into the 'Lake of Fire' (Hell) forever.  Hell is definitively a REAL place, and once you go there, there's no getting out! 

You can go on Youtube and watch many people's testimonies about dying and going to Hell. You can start watching here; 

http://www.youtube.com/results?search_query=i+went+to+hell+testimony&oq=hell+testimony&aq=9m&aqi=g9g-m1&aql=&gs_sm=1&gs_upl=8791l12247l0l16023l14l14l0l0l0l0l457l2371l2-3.1.3l7l0

Though one may not understand the severity of God sentencing a person to burn in Hell for all eternity, as punishment for sin, we must realize that God is far more holy and just than we could ever imagine.

Your life, and body belongs to GOD, who created you. 

No one should ever even seriously consider something so foolish as killing one's self. I hope these few words have encouraged you.

I'll pray for you.

PS; God promises us that one day in the future; "He (Jesus) will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away." - Revelation 21:4. 

He also tells us; "Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand." - Isaiah 41:10.

When you have a relationship with Jesus, things ALWAYS get better with time. He loves you and wants you to have a future. A wonderful future which includes EVERLASTING life. :-)

I would also get a Bible from somewhere and start reading it from the New Testament (the book of Matthew.) 

Or start reading the New Testament, online; http://bible.oremus.org/?passage=Matthew+1

Chelli Morris · Answer

iit can go either wayy, yhu shud explain this to a physicologist and see their professional opinion bc iit mayy be something serious.. who knws.. but iin a wayy youre a lot likee i was, yhu shud just act kewl bc when yhu get that attitude ppl will flow to yhu... dnt try so hard to speak to them,,, just have a kewl, layed back attitude n ppl will want to tlk to yhu... and yhu start bein tha kidd that says "yeah" or "okay", and they will practically be dieing to tlk to yhu... how do ik this? when yhu seem to be uninterested, ppl feel tha need to gain your interest.. (they cant stand rejectio either... from anyone) hope this helps kewl kidd (;  gud luck

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