Renewing our vows question?

I would skip the vow renewal and just save up for a honeymoon. It would be a great anniversary getaway!

If you want a vow renewal maybe wait for your 25th!

Brittany,

Why on earth would you save up for 2+ years to host a wedding "re-do" when, in fact, you HAD a wedding and married your groom? That is ridiculous.

When are the young people going to realize that we all make decisions in this life. You made the decision which was best for you at that time. It sounds nice to me. A small wedding with close family and then out to eat after. Perfect!

You are getting the wrong idea of a vow renewal. A vow renewal is done at BIG milestone anniversaries such as 25 or 50....not 5 or 10.

Why not save up for a nice vacation (call it a honeymoon if you want) and that's it! To save for years for something that most people find ridiculous is, in fact, ridiculous.

Get on with your life and put your money towards something more useful than a wedding do-over.

You already had your wedding and are not entitled to a do over. A vow renewal generally is not done before the 10 anniversary and is usually saved for more like 20 or 30 years after not 3.

You do not need to save a lot of money because you do not need to have a wedding dress or a huge reception and the limo and the flowers, this is not a wedding so do not try to make it into one. You will look ignorant and pathetic and maybe greedy for the cash and prizes you hope to collect.

You get one shot at a wedding. A vow renewas is not a do over wedding, it has its own significance which at just 3 years you can hardly begin to appreciate.

Are you also going to have a vow renewal at 10 years, 15 years, 20 years an so forth? This just sounds silly. You may not expect/ask for/register for gifts so I can't say it's greedy exactly, but in the end it still just looks like a ploy for attention. Very unbecoming. I would advise against this idea. Save your money and go on a really fabulous honeymoon instead! The wedding wasn't the important part, but the marriage is!

I will never understand why people use the terms vow renewal and "wedding" interchangeably. Your title talks about a vow renewal, and then your actual question makes it clear you want a wedding re-do.

Take a delayed honeymoon at 5 years and have the vacation of your dreams. Don't waste money on a pretend wedding. You've already had yours, and now you're a married woman. This means it's way too late for a wedding, pretend or otherwise.

There are 2 reasons to have a vow renewal.

1. Your marriage has suffered bad times and the two of you have worked hard to repair the marriage and are ready for a new start.

2. To mark a milestone anniversary, like the 25th or 50th.

You don't have a vow renewal because you made the choice to have a small wedding and now want to be a princess for a day.

If you do not ask for gifts, and keep the ceremony low key without the wedding party, and other stuff, it is fine to have a vow renewal if you wish. Keep it simple. Maybe have an anniversary party, invite close friends and family, and have a short, but intimate ceremony. A lot of people do this, and I don't think it looks tacky at all, and if your guests won't either if you do not ask for gifts.

It seems obvious you want a wedding redo, but life doesn't offer redos. Learn to love the wedding you had. If your marriage is successful, it will be the only one you ever have. Be grateful.

Your husband's income is low and you will find you have expenses outside of your fixed expenses (ex: car repairs, new car, furniture, moving expenses, clothing, hospital bill, etc;). You need to be realistic about what you can afford. It doesn't sound like extravagant parties fit in your budget, at least not for the timebeing.