Are my parents crazy?

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Some of this stuff has been going on for quite some time.

1) My dad consistently calls me fat and will always tell me to lose weight. Even when I was in sports, I was still considered fat.  The other day, he asked me what size I am. I said that I was a small in shirts and a 0-2 in pants. His response? "Because you think you are." I'm 17, 5'1, and 114 pounds (I'm so short because I am Asian). Even when people will tell me that I'm so small in front of my dad, he always has to add a sly remark about me thinking that I'm small.

2) My mom is literally always on my butt about my grades, even though I have a 4.0 GPA and currently a 28 on the ACT. This year, I was number 5 in my class. She was furious with me, saying that this is why I shouldn't have a boyfriend because my grades would drop.  She already knew I was having trouble in precal because my teacher dislikes me and that I was taking more advanced classes than two of the people who were positioned higher than me (Our ranking system is messed up), but she still insisted that it was because of my boyfriend (who is actually number 1 in his class) and that I should break up with him.

3) I'm about to be a senior in high school, so I need to start visiting colleges so I know where I want to go. However, apparently to my parents, I don't have the ACT score (28) to start visiting colleges, which makes no sense at all. They said that visiting colleges was a waste of time and money because I probably won't even be accepted with my ACT score (UCLA was the college we were discussing). A few months before this conversation, my parents "chose" the college that I was going to and my dad chose my major and decided that I was going to medical school WITHOUT CONSULTING ME. I argued with them and tried to rationalize, but they refused to listen to me and to go with what they wanted to.

4) I am seventeen, but my parents refuse to let me out after 8:00, and if I am, I have to come home before 10:30. My driving curfew, according to my state, is 12:00. No other details needed.

5) My dad once gave me a whipping for getting a 96 in my English class during 8th grade. He popped a blood vessel in my upper thigh. My mom constantly calls me "lazy" and "stupid".

There are so many other things that they have said and done that I won't list here, but it has gotten to the point where I have currently decided that when I have kids, neither of them will see them. All the stress and scrutinization that they have put me under has also made me contemplate suicide on multiple occasions. I don't know what to do anymore.

Anonymous · Answer

I thought parents like that were a stereotypical joke. Dang I'm so sorry. :(


1). Your BMI is 21.5 which is PERFECTLY NORMAL! so ignore them. That is exactly average and is where you should be. :)

2. #5 in the class is still great! As long as you're in the top 5, especially at a big highschool, colleges most likely will not care. Do not break up with your boyfriend! My dad has friends who married their HS bf/gf, not saying it happens to everyone, but its not worth taking a risk that could mess up your future over your boyfriend! He sounds really smart and your parents are dumb for doing tha

3. Wow. Go for what you like. Don't pick the major they want if you hate it. Do they really want you to be miserable all your life? I understand them in that they want you to have a good job so you will make enough money to support yourself, but there is plenty other jobs like that too.

4. With all this other stuff going on, I wouldn't argue about this. The other things are far more important. Maybe after you work something out you can ask, but for now, I wouldn't recommend pushing it.


5. That is just horrible beyond words. All I can say to that is just one more year and you're out, stay strong. Parents should not do that to their children. There is literally no difference to colleges between a 96 and a 100. They want the grade. And 8th grade doesn't even matter!


Yea, don't let your kids see them. You are better along without that unless they change their ways.

do NOT commit suicide please!!! It is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. People at my school have been committing suicide, and it is absolutely devastating and selfish. My friend had cancer and she would have given anything to just have one more month. I am not trying to make you sad, just trying to show you how important life is to those who do not take it for granted.

Stay strong (:

Eeeeeeeeeeeeee · Answer

Your parents are extremely mean and hard on you.  I am sorry this has been the hand you've been dealt.  
I can suggest you sit them down and calmly tell them some of the things you just said above.  How they be little you, have taken away your self confidence, are spoiling your social life when there is no need because you are very capable of achieving good grades and having a fruitful social life at the same time.  Tell them your accomplishments succeed more that most of the people you know academically and you do not need their pushing and saying how a high grade isn't good enough.  Tell them you no longer and never did need their comments on your appearance because it is YOUR appearance for a reason and they should bother with their own.  Tell them you are at breaking point and find them so difficult to live with and although you may appreciate some of the things they do for you, you most certainly do not appreciate their overly nasty criticism!  
Good luck!  Don't let them bring you down, ignore them.  You are a champion and a succeeder and they are spoiling their relationship with you.  You will be a great loving parent because you will actually have respect and be sensitive to your kids.  A tryer always wins! x

Briana · Answer

Girl ur parents are crazy. Next time they say something about ur ACT scores or something just be like this…... " at least I didn't drop out of high school! At least I'm trying my hardest!! At least I'm not out on the streets doing drugs or getting preggo." and " I'm not fat at all maby ur just calling me fat because you are! I'm almost an adult and I can make my own desisons. You guys have made desisons for me my whole life.... Now it's my turn." And or " if you guys want me or my Kids to have anything to do with you later on then quit treating me like crap or else you won't have a daughter anymore."  girl the point is just stand up for urself. I'm 15 and a half n if I was in ur shoes that's what I would do.

aspiring_chef · Answer

Wow. I don't even know what to say. For one, your parents are WAY to hard on you!!!!! Your grades are as good as perfect and as for your height and weight, it's perfectly normal! I would say the vast majority of women would die to be you! What do your parents want you to become,  anorexic?  They are absolutely horrible towards you, and I really don't blame you for never wanting your future children to be around those people. But let me tell you this, suicide isn't the answer!!! I think you SHOULD start looking at colleges and get the hell out of that place when you graduate next year! Just stick it out for 1 year and never look back.  I wish you well and I hope you know you deserve a lot better parents

Dylan · Answer

If they dont like your ACT score then ask to take the ACT again...i made a 16 on it the first time and i am still talking to colleges...and im about to take the ACT again...but 28 is a GREAT score!

didi_rusu · Answer

holy crap.
that **** ain't normal
move out! 
you're dad sounds like he's got serious issues, maybe it's cause he was brought up strict and thinks you should be treated the same way.
there's no need for suicide just get away from them.

? · Answer

another year to 18-is that adulthood in america?

Flute Girl · Answer

Yes, they are crazy. REALLY CRAZY!!!

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