should i let my 18 year old sleep in the same room with her bf?

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My daughter has recently approached me asking if i would be comfortable to let her and her boyfriend sleep in the same room once they both turn 18. They are both 18 in october within 2 days of each other and have known each other for 11 years and have been going out for about a year now, i trust her and i trust him. I know that they are both sexually active as she has told me this. (they have only been active with each other). I have ensured that she is on the pill and they use contraception and we have had the "sex talk". Once they are 18 they are technically legal, but im not sure i feel comfortable. At the moment he stays over twice a week in separate rooms (my son's room is in between theirs). She has told me that the reason she wants to stay in the same room is just to cuddle and feel "all warm and cozy". Im starting to think that there isnt much reason not to let them, because they have sex whether they are in the same room or not, they are protected, they are in love, and just want to be with each other . So what should i do, should i start letting them?

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Well, after two generations of being a parent I can certainly say you've done all the right things and age is not a problem. I had to smile because I get the feeling you probably feel a bit weird about the fact that "it" will now be taking place under your own roof and it's certainly a sobering feeling to suddenly realize your very own daughter is now a young woman and it takes time to get used to the idea, believe me!!! I say yes by all means provided it doesn't disrupt normal family life.

Larry G · Answer

This is a wierd question to me since it is YOUR house and if you feel uncomfortable about it then no it is not all right at all .. If you want to furnish a place for them to shack up and play house then who is to say you can't do that ..Love and Lust are very close to each other and i remember a long time ago when i was 18.. If it was female and willing i was ready ...

Christian · Answer

Uhmm. I think so.. Have trust n your daughter, and talk to the guy and tell him to be careful, and he should know the limits. Just let them be. Nothing will go wrong. Just talk to them conservatively, that's what couples do. Let them be. :)

Its Cocktail Time! · Answer

They are both old enough, and since they are going to anyways, as long as she's contributing to house work and such

opinionated · Answer

not in my house.
just because they are having sex does not mean i have to supply them the place  to do it

 they want to play adults,they play adults by my rules in my house

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