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How to become less jealous and possessive?

I have recently pushed away some good friends because of my jealousy and possessive. I now realize this is a long standing problem that has caused me much grief and pain in my life.

I want to change this, is counselling the best way to become more secure and less emotionally stunted? Or do you have any ideas if how I can change this about myself?

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  • PBS
    Lv 4
    9 years ago
    Favorite Answer

    I'm not an expert, just so you know. Jealousy and possessiveness is your reaction to your anxieties and insecurities. It's like when we find we are wrong we tend to blame somebody else real fast - like it's not our problem. You need to take an inventory of who you are. Write a list of ALL the negative stuff about you and then one about all the positive. This will give you an idea of what needs to be adjusted and improved on. And then you get going working on you - it's actually a lot of fun (and healthy).

    You need to built up a good relationship with yourself, get to know who you really are. To start, read my blog-post about RELATIONSHIPS (link below). One of my convictions is that if we do not have a good relationship with ourselves, we cannot have one with anybody else - seriously.

    Read the blog-post and PLEASE feel free to E-Mail me (through my blog) if you have more questions about this. I have gone through shyness and insecurities as anybody else, but I took control of it and has lived a rather lovely and grand life ever since (still do). So feel free getting back to me, okay? I'm in your corner...

    Cheers, Peter

    Source(s): LIFE AS IT REALLY IS RELATIONSHIPS: http://peterbsteiness.blogspot.com/2012/07/relatio...
  • 5 years ago

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  • tips
    Lv 4
    9 years ago

    It's insecurity and that's because you don't know who you are! I don't know if you're a Christian or not, but in your private time I would audibly forgive anyone who has ever hurt you including yourself.

    Turn these hurts over to the Lord and let Him free you from them. Realize that God loves you, hears your prayers, and wants you free. Know that you are very important to Him. You're special. Your beautiful and you're a Queen in God's Kingdom.

  • 9 years ago

    Yes, get into therapy to get to the root of your jealousy issues. It will kill all of your relationships.

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  • Anonymous
    9 years ago

    so did u get married or divorced with your friends?

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