Adoption...choice of boy or girl?

Yah, 'cos adopting a child really is like choosing a pair of shoes . . .

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Clue: Adoption is about giving a home to a child in need of one.

I can't believe you got so many nasty answers! Your adopting which is a beautiful thing. Your providing a loving home and opportunity for a child who might otherwise not get it!

There is no right answer. Boys and Girls are different. I have always wanted a girl. I would be happy as long as it's healthy!

When you pregnant people are always asking which gender your hoping for yet when you answer an agency your a horrible person?

I have a set of twins that I adopted as infants. When it came to gender choice on the paper work, I wrote no preference. I would ask them if you have to choose why. And as for which one, that is totally up to you.

You are NOT required to choose a gender. You can pick which gender, age or race you are interested in but it is not a requirement.

I have friends & family who have adopted. Each & everyone has decided they do not mind which gender or race the child is. They either simply leave the option blank.

It is never a requirement.

Simple. Adopt the child who wouldn't have a home without you. Perhaps an older child from foster care, whose parents have already had their rights terminated.

Most women who surrender newborns for adoption are pressured to do so, "so the baby will have two parents". So it doesn't make a lot of sense to take a baby away from one single woman, just to give it to another single woman. In addition, the pre-school-age children of single parents will spend most of their time in daycare while Mom is earning a living, instead of all day with a nurturing stay-at-home Mom. And children who grow up without a father in the home are more likely to display behavioral and educational problems as they grow up.

So if it's a newborn you're after, please think twice.

Most will ask if you have a preference but I don't know anyone who has had to choose between an infant boy or girl. If it was an older child they do ask what you prefer.

I've never heard of an agency that places newborns that asks you to pick a gender. Most are just the opposite, they want you to be open to both.

Why don't you respond either. If you are specific on gender it may take you longer to adopt.

What about not indicating preferences? That gives you twice the chance you'll find a match.

Can you put either? To me, that would prove that you're in this to give to a child, and not just to fulfill your own fantasies of mother hood.