Christians Please :) ! How to have purity talk with Girlfriend?

Just tell her that you believe what you have been doing has effected your relationship with God and that you want to wait until marriage until you go further. If she loves you, she will understand and since she is a Christian too she will be more likely to understand. You have been dating for 4 months so trust her with your feelings. She may surprise you and say that she wants to wait too.

wow. i'm glad that you love God enough to set boundaries even though the world around you will think less of you. i think you should definitely pray for the right words to say and maybe read a little bit about why purity is important and remember to bring those things up. remind your girlfriend that her duty is to God first and that although physical intimacy and closeness are blessings, there's more to a relationship than that. actually, the more you let God into your relationship, the better it will get. set the appropriate boundaries and perhaps make some sort of tangible reminder to keep them (it doesn't have to be purity ring... you can get more creative than that). Dont be nervous because this is what God commands and even though this is not the "norm", that's the whole point. we are called out of the world. so dont be afraid to stick out like a sore thumb! it's true, there is a difference between being careful and being too strict.. just saying though, you might want to make the boundaries a little tighter than you want them to be, just in case you slip a little, then you still have plenty of boundaries left that you haven't past if you see what i mean. if you ever find yourself in a situation where you want to go further, get up and do something outside or volunteer, idk, just break the mood! quote Scripture if you have to. God's blessings on your relationship!

YOU are going to get alot of negative on here dont listen to them. GOOD for you. I know it is hard i saved myself for marriage and so did my wife. it was easier for her since she is from a Philppine province more oldfasioned values. And a good Christian family. The truth is you need to pray about this and when you talk to your GF. Makes sure she agrees with you. IF you two love each other then you will respect each others views. To start with put a Bible between you. Keep in public lit places. Do not go off and park alone. Maybe for one experiment. Decide to go on a no touch date. Set the guidelines before you even meet on the phone. I mean say the only sexual contact we can have is. HOlding hands. or even the only thing is a good night kiss at the end. See if you can stay within these boundaries. but you need to talk this out and agree on it all. Perhaps even call her and say we need to talk, and when we meet. we need to talk before we do any huggin or kissin. once it starts engines go a reving.

God bless and good luck You can do it. A real man can restrain himself. It is the animals that dont have restraint. and to physically father a child is not hard. to raise one is the challenge to be a man.

Pray about it and know that you both already know what God expects from both of you and not what God would like to see you do. This is a narrow path that you are both walking on. You both already know what obedience on that narrow path consists of. If you both want to get married and stay married and know that God will bless your marriage according to the truth that He expects you to walk in. She doesn't seem to be as strong and determined as you and is looking for compromise to something that obedience demands purity in. You are already compromising and playing around looking for an opportunity to justify doing what you both want to do and create a weakness in the moment of strong desire and explain it all as being too much for the both of you to fight any more. You want to give in some how and then ask for forgiveness later. What you are doing is denying your blessing for your union in marriage out of obedience. Be a man of God like you are trying to gain strength for. Make up your mind that this is what must be done. She will also gain strength from watching how you have decided to walk this path. Stop playing the maybe game and move forward for the both of you. You can't be an obedient Christian that decides to fudge by jumping of the God train for a little moment to sin and know that you are sinning and then go happily back to pick up your pseudo righteousness along with the conviction that will now haunt you and possibly keep you from even turning back to strive for what you just turned in for sin. Your marriage will always be in question of being blessed as much as it could have been in obedience. If she won't follow your lead to glorify God who should be first I your lives but is now starting to be a shaky second to sin, then you need to ask yourself an honest question right now. Do you want sex over God? And are you willing to go all of the way as far as what you know truth is all about and what Jesus died for. Are you willing to cheapen what Christ wants you to have by not hearing those words "Well done" Tell her no matter what happens between the both of you as far as your relationship, you are going to be a real Christian and be strong and obey that which is already what lights your future narrow path. Its the only way that a true Christian must walk. Any other way is hypocrisy that will always haunt you and steel your blessings and knock you down time after time. You already know the regrets that will always surface every time that which should have been sanctified and pure through obedience feels tainted when a problem comes around the bend that shouldn't have been a problem. Go for the Blessings man. Go for God's best by giving yours. Live in victory. Stop playing with what is weakening you.

Cool story, bro. Now go talk to your priest. I'm sure he'll enjoy listening to tales of almost-sex.

Edit 1: @OP, so you're one of those lone wolves who believes in all the trappings of a religion sans the trouble and expense of actually being a part of a religion. That makes your story trebly uninteresting.

okay, god does not give a damn about where you put your weenie, if you arent ready to have sex with your girlfriend, just say it to her.