What should i do,this is changing me?

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Hi.i am a 14 year old guy.So it all started at the beginng of school.I was happy cause i was gonna meet my friends and then a new guy came.First 2 weeks i saw him observing on all of us(not talking at all) and then he and i began taking like we were best friends.We continued to talk till mid december then he started drifting apart,so did my old best friends.I wondered what did i do wrong to make all my friends drift apart.I think i began to feel jelaous of this new guy and than i thought about my friends.All these years ive been known as the optimistic and the fun guy of the class but then thoughts of loneliness came into my mind.My family started to notice and i became so much obsessed that no one wanted to be with me that i didn't talk to anyone.Now my "best friends" started to stay with this guy and even when they meet each other they don't even bother to invite me.When i try to talk to them and say what's up,what happend,they just say nothing and skip.I've never felt so lonely and jealous in my whole life and its changing me.And if you say that try and make new friends,its hard for me.Ive tried before and not succeded.Please tell me what should i do.And sorry for my english,not my first language

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Guys are usually very imiture at 14 but it may be that your a bit ahead of them. That's probably partly why they don't want to talk it out with u. They may have false preceptions of u or are just shallow. It's hard to say without knowing the people and seeing the dynamic. Perhaps when u started to feel lonely you unconciously pushed them away. Or perhaps you were withdrawn from them and they didn't understand why and may have taken it the wrong way. But what ever the true reason is you should try to quiet yourself and search deep within to find out what has made you feel lonely because it sounds like that happened before your friends drifted away. Thoughts are very powerfull and they create your reality. So if you think you're ugly you won't see what beauty you hold within. If you think you're dumb you won't allow yourself to accept challenges and you will deny yourself knowledge. I hope you can help yourself love you so you won't feel lonely and alienated anymore. Be there for yourself even if nobody else is. Peace

Philippa-Stephanie · Answer

Right I know its hard to make new friends so im not suggesting that I think that because this new lad came into your life that you were intrigued by this new person and because you got so close your other friends felt pushed aside and possible used ? So as this friend has decided to seek out new people other than having just one friend then you will be left on your own and because your "old" friends have drifted then if you are expecting them to be all friendly like they were with you before this new person they will definitely think you are using them.

? · Answer

dont worry it takes tym it had happened to me to but its you who view this and u feel loniness and it u who can change  this lonliness into fun  and enjoyable lyf so keep on trying and  make urself happy and try to take some advice from elder or near ones !! and never feel disharted !! coz it leads to depression which is not good which creates nonsense thaughts in our mind !! so try to keep those thaughts away and  feel good ..Â®Â©

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What should i do,this is changing me?

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