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Is it greedy to want to just live for myself?
I want opinions. I've tried being selfless, generous, patient, loving, seeking and serving God, doing what my parents and teachers say, being a good friend, etc. (I don't do any of that very well, but I've tried all my life). Too often the demands these things make on me go against my values or make me move/react/decide faster than I want to (I'm pretty slow) and make me depressed or bitter or cynical, and filled with guilt. I don't want to be a self-centered arrogant *****, but I don't see how I can live unless I think of myself first all or almost all of the time and all but ignore everyone else, yet that sounds immoral - greedy, and is probably at least a little self-destructive. Thoughts?
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- tellitlikeitisLv 78 years agoFavorite Answer
May I ask how long is 'all your life'? You sound by your attitude and current thinking to be fairly young still, and it is more normal for young people to be self-centred than not.
You say that the 'demands' of being selfless, generous, patient etc. go against your values, so what exactly do you propose your values are going to be in future?
Is it always going to be 'about me'? Or just for a while? Of course if you set out to be selfish for a while, you may find that it suits you to stay that way. If that is what is going to satisfy you in life, no problem, but it is almost inevitable that people will find you thoughtless, uncaring, and yes, just plain greedy. That's a real turn off for most people. A selfish attitude, or a life fulfilled by friends and family, those are your two really important choices. Most people prefer to find a middle ground and to cosset themselves a little but cherish generosity and friendships more.
- ?Lv 48 years ago
Yes it is. you're not on your own: you've been conceived by 2 people, which means they should have teach you sense of community. help others, help yourself.
And what is life without love with all its forms by the way? Self-destruction
- DeringLv 68 years ago
It sounds like you want to spend some time on yourself. Pretty reasonable. Focus on yourself for a while. You are a loving person and will find time for others eventually.
