Was i right or wrong in this work related situation?

Now I don't know your work environment but from what I gather from your question there are a lot of games played... if that is the case I am terribly sorry.... I wouldn't necessary consider a different job as suggested by a different user, just because you'll have some sort of problems where ever you go.

You did what's right by you at the moment so there is no point in looking back at your decision now with regret, but remember "principle" doesn't pay the bill... Don't hold on to what ever happened in the past. If my boss offered me over time I would take it without question, of course I'm greedy and I know I can set that money aside for a rainy day.

The best thing you can do if there are games in the work place is stick to yourself, don't get involved and worry about you... to clarify I mean make decisions that make you an asset to your company and make you invaluable... learn the job like the back of your hand and make yourself as readily available as possible, reliability is a rare commodity these days and your employer will see that.

Unfortunately it goes a bit deeper than should I or shouldn't I? You've expressed issues regarding your job in the past, and in some regards there may be kiss up employee's who seem to garner the favor of the layers of bosses.

While the bottom line might be valid and last minute is either a test or real regarding loyalty, to say yes might insure some level of security OR suggest you'll do anything to keep your job. It sounds like the motive of the company has little if anything to do with the employee, only getting a job done, and if your neck is lined up for the chopping block, you can believe so are the necks of others at higher stations than yours.

The fact that there are those around you who don't like you, doesn't distract from your ability, but if bosses listened to every bit of water cooler gossip being spewed, then perhaps they should work elsewhere. While the disharmony may seem superficial, your concern should be in keeping your job, or believing that the next job you apply for will find you have the qualifications and a fair recommendation. "Doesn't play well with others." is hardly mature.

Hmm...well this is a tough one. First of all, it would depend what your boss said to you in your conversation with the first incident. Did he believe the trouble maker that said you messed up? First I would get that part straight. Then, I would tell him I needed to think about it. I never answer people right away without thinking or (praying) about it. Then I would analyze how much I needed the money. If I felt I truly did, I may say Yes but I would add that I did not appreciate how the other incident was handled and that I wanted to talk to him further on it. I would try to keep relations good with the boss, even if deep down inside you do not respect him as much as you would like. It just goes better for you in the long run.

My friend, I can see both sides of the coin. This is my thinking on the matter. First of all thank God you have a job since so many are unemployed. I think you should accept the overtime and let the past be in the past. It will show your boss and his boss your are not a petty person and you are willing to cooperate which will serve to show them you take your job seriously.

If the prior situation arises again, I would approach your boss and fill him in on the details and let him take it to his boss. Of course it depends on well you trust your boss to relay accurate facts. Bottom line, do what you think is best for you.

No one should be a doormat but being humble will get you kudos in the long run.

You were absolutely correct! This "team or family" concept at work is a bunch of crap. Personal feelings should never enter into a working situation. If there was a question about you, the head boss should have address the situation with you directly. Instead he took the word of someone else. To me that is failure in his responsibility as a boss.

If this is the atmosphere you have to work in it might be a good idea to start looking elsewhere.

I won't go so far as to say you were wrong. You have valid reasons for making the decision you did. But I propose you should have volunteered and get some overtime and show them how a class act operates. It was a good opportunity to show them why you should be their first choice next time. Nothing shows better in the work you do than the pride you have in it.

If you really want to clear things up, you need to talk openly with the manager about the last situation you described to get his exact reasons as to why he did not take you on before.

That way, he could have gotten your side of the story as well.

A manager would have approached you regarding your performance and get your view on the situation to be professional.

You could either talk to him about the last situation to get things straight and to let go of your resentment. Or could have proved in that situation you are more than capable.

If you find the management unprofessional on how they handle situations, you can also complain to his boss or find another job.

Good luck.

Its a toxic work environment, like most offices today, way too much back-stabbing and a$$-kissing in the business world today.

Your boss' superior handled the situation wrong the last time, which tells me you have "cr@p at the top". I would advise updating your resume and seeing what else you can find.

Good Luck!!

I think you are partially correct and have indicated your preference, but now go back and say you will and stress "To help you out", then next week mention how unfairly treated you have been

I am not certain how your boss structure works but it is possible your boss was over rulled by his boss and may feel bad about it already

Chetak

I would quit......that is if you can find a job at the same pay grade.........

I've been taken advantage by so many unscrupulous bosses who used me to cover as many as ....get ready for this.....8 people who called in sick, and all I got was a lousy time and a half.