How do I switch friendship groups?

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I've been thinking about this for a while and I know it's only going to get worse.

The "friendship" group I'm currently in is lead by a really argumentative hypocrite. She always undermines me and I'm always left out for being too quiet, or because I don't want to join in with their stupid immature conversations about things "sounding wrong" or whatever completely irrelevant conversations she wants to talk about. Most of them often end in some stupid ewwing about some not even remotely sexual things, but seriously what is wrong with the notion of sex? 

She is also incredibly judgmental and thinks: being gay is wrong, that it is wrong for a person to dress as the opposite sex, that a female must shave their legs, that anyone not wearing makeup is weird, that wearing too much makeup makes you "slutty", that short hair on a girl and long hair on a boy is wrong and there's plenty of other things that she says.

Anyway, I'm known for being shy and reserved and suffering with social anxiety does not help matters. I've often been told that I could get way better friends, but how do I go about making new friends? It would be really appreciated if anybody could help me :)

(I'm 15 almost 16, year 11 in college and a female)

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

just start talking to others in ur class
ur friends wont like this
so they will maintain a distance from  u

? · Answer

what a *****, no wonder you want to get new friends. I change groups a lot, i was a popular, then i had a goth best friend, then i was in the weird group, then i was in the arty/acters group, then i had a funny best friend, at the moment im in the cool group. All of that was in a year so yeah i change group a lot! Its quite easy, first you start getting close to the people in the group whilst distancing yourself from people in your current group. Then you hang out with them at break and lunch just sometimes. Start doing out of school things with the group. After a week or two you are accepted into the group and VOILA! 
Dont say 'i cant do that im shy' because i used to be shy too but i still did it

Anonymous · Answer

I've been stuck in an incredibly immature friendship group since I started secondary school but as its a new year I just decided to leave. I just slowly started hanging out with different people; luckily, I'm incredibly sporty so it wasn't too hard for me to find people to 'hang with'. 
I'm so much happier now, and I just feel you have to  be really brave and go for it, you'll be so much happier :) good luck

Anonymous · Answer

Besides the people me and you are in the exact same situation right now. I'm trapped in a similar situation with people who lie to me for a year! I've felt excluded for a long time now cos all they talk about is sex sex sex (no offence to your cause) and I'm less comfortable. Just hang in there is my only advice (ill give another answer as soon as someone answers my question)

Darren · Answer

Your as judgmental as she is in the opposite way... I see this in your writing. letting people be themselves... yet you won't let her be herself. Maybe you do need a change of friends but try seeing people as individuals. Your friend should try to take the same advice.

Harry · Answer

To be honest i don't believe in friendship groups if you want to be friends with someone then talk to them

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