How to forgive those who hurt you?

Forgiveness is given to those who are sorry, and who recognize the hurt they have caused and are really trying to not cause any more hurt. You say these people continue to hurt you. Therefore you cannot forgive them yet. To keep on trying to and feeling bad that you cannot forgive them is to emotionally abuse yourself. You need to see the situation for what it really is. These are people who apparently don't respect you, and you need to not keep putting yourself in a position to get hurt by them. Deal with that first, then you can work on healing from the damage they have caused.

It's an odd thing when I examine forgiveness. The only thing I can count on concerning forgiveness is that Jesus talked about us doing it and it's an act of obedience to do it. Then there is the part of forgiveness concerning letting myself off the hook; apparently a selfish act, so that I don't have to carry a grudge all my days over something someone else did to where I felt wronged.

But there is another part of forgiveness- the attempt to let someone else off the hook as well as me. So the apparent selfish act turns into an act of compassion- so that the other person can feel free of resentment and grudges about whatever was wrong.

So this forgiveness thing is applicable to the betterment of relations of both parties. And I find that it fosters peace, which is really the kind of life I seek to live; a peaceful life.

I'd learn martial arts or something to protect your rights if people try to take away what's yours. Other than that, understand that people are a product of genetics and environment, the random forming of the universe and all the things it contains. Most people can't really be taught a lesson once they're fully grown, but people do slowly learn. The key is to realise that it's not really anybody's fault the way they are, not really. That doesn't mean that you don't have to punch them in the face every now and then.

I've had the same problem. It is not easy. You need God's help to do it when the hurt and anger are deep. You make the decision with your will and forgive. It takes a little longer for your emotions to fall in line.

Make a sincere covenant with the Father that you will always obey all of Jesus' sayings . In doing that FORGIVING people is easier .

i agree with spin cycle

i love jesus

i know about divine forgiveness

and how we should just forgive everyone for everything

because it really is the best thing for us

those resentments and angers are totally justified in you

forgiveness is divine

to be one who always forgives regardless

not one soul knows this state

so even thiugh it sounds so super spiritual and religious

to say forgive even when they dont ask

forgive for your own sake

forgive not only what theyve done

forgive for what you think theyve done as well

still i agree with spin cycle

You forgive people, when you know you are forgiven yourself.

To feel forgiven though, you have to realize that you are not perfect first and that there was something about you that needed to be forgiven also.

hate is poison and it mainly eats up the hater even if you've been wronged...

is it possible to stay away from the people to keep the, away from your life?

You just do good things to them.You help them if they need and you'll see how they will stop being bad with you.

you show love and forgive them even if they do not deserve it