Nothing more to say.. my cat ,she takes my life...?

Daisy was like this at around six months old but then at seven months, gained a stray cat companion Thomas (whom she found for herself and lured into our home). Initially a runt, Thomas is now around 1kg heavier than Daisy plus longer head to tail and he can sort her out when she gets out of hand. Female cats like Daisy seem to benefit from being dominated and generally put in their place, otherwise they can be quite a handful and boredom is probably a factor in their developing aggressive tendencies.

Thomas and Daisy regularly play fight with Daisy provoking Thomas into retaliating by being generally infuriating and mocking his attempts to be stately and dignified. Thomas likes to rise above it, being almost five now but Daisy won't allow him to, so he is obliged to thrash her and afterwards she is calm and no longer so manic, just looking up at him tenderly. Unless you have spent an hour in the dungeon of a dominatrix, as I once did (being also highly strung and a control freak), you may struggle to understand this and cringe at such violence, but knowing her place in the hierarchy is crucial to your cat and inwardly, she WANTS to submit to a male, although equally she wants that male to adore her and be devoted to her when he is not putting her in her place with a sound thrashing...

Without a dominant partner to let off steam with in this way, your female cat is simply looking to play fight with you as you are all that is available and will have to do until a dominant male comes along. Sadly, you have unprotected skin which tears all too easily and you fail to dominate her, so she winds up dominating you instead and you become her plaything. She doesn't want to be the boss but feels that you clearly aren't up to the task. Interactive toys such as cat teasers may help a little but a compatible cat companion is so much better. I was however very lucky in that Daisy found her own partner and playmate: not all cats are compatible with one another and my advice if you would like to give her a friend would be to approach a cat shelter and seek their advice in finding a cat who would have the right temperament to get along with yours. Thomas, although timid around strangers, is a very easy-going cat which contrasts well with Daisy's highly strung personality. Both cats are mischievous and like to wind me up, both are quite vocal - Thomas especially so - and they are just two years apart in age, Thomas being the older. Your vet might be able to give you further advice in both finding ways to calm your cat down yourself and matching her with a partner she could get along with. Good luck!

When I took in my kitty he used to do just the same- i do not recommend any sort of brutal physical violence but it really helps when you show the cat that some things are just allowed and some are not, just a small tap here and there or detach her and keep her separated in an empty room for a while (only 10 mins or so...). Cutting nails really helps of course. I don't know much about how all this can affect a deaf cat so better ask a vet.

You should have started this from the get go. When she even starts to show biting and scratching, or biting and/or scratching, immediately stop whatever you are doing and walk away. Don't speak to her, turn your back and go away from her and do not talk or look or touch or anything her for at least 5 mins or longer. Every single time she begins to scratch and/or bite. It'll take her a while to connect her bad behavior with you suddenly abandoning and ignoring her so completely and she'll learn to not do that to you. If by the time she usually don't bite of scratch but has lapses, immediately say "No" firmly but you don't have to yell, just say it and walk away to remind her that's something you do not tolerate. If she wants you to play with her and have hands on contact with her, she has to keep those claws retracted and that mouth off your skin. You cannot allow her to even play at it. You are not her prey or her toy. Kittens learn this from their mother and their siblings--if they get rough or bite or scratch, they get hissed at and the other cat will leave to get away. If you know how to hiss effectively (and I think all cat caregivers ought to learn to hiss and purr at a minimum), use it only when you mean it. You should also get the vet to show you how to trim your cat's claws and then trim them every week just so they won't be so damaging. You have to do them (or at least pretend to do them) weekly or the cat forgets and becomes uncooperative. And make sure when she's being good, to praise her and lavish her with live and affection. When she plays with you without her claws exposed and with out biting, tell her what a good kitty she is and all that in the sweetest voice she recognizes to encourage her to do the things that make you happy. Even my rather mentally dim very large male cat has learned (over a long time) to keep his claws retracted when he deals with people (our female just seems to know this stuff, but she's exceedingly bright). Make sure you have scratching posts (I prefer the ones without carpeting so the cats never connect carpet with "it's ok to scratch here") and have play toys where she can use her cat skills--cat fishing poles with feathers or birds or mice on the end that she can grab with her claws, that she can bite. You have to teach her what are the things that it's ok for her to bite and scratch and which are the things (humans with our tender skin) are not.

I don't recommend hurting or beating an animal by any means...but she is dominating you and seeing you as a pray item...the next time she bites or scratches you just give her a quick LIGHT pop on the head or rear end...you need to show her who is bigger and who is in charge..this is how cats communicate to eachother that,,,that is not acceptable behavior.. and you'll need to get some toys for her to play with such as laser pointer or something she can chase around...hope this helps..good luck

Call a vet, ask them what may help considering she is deaf. And God bless you for helping this kitty!

Spray her with water? Lol