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I'm trying to quit self harm, and I need advice.?

Hey, before you decide that I was cutting for attention, let me clarify a few things.

First; I didn't do it for attention, I did it for over 5 years and I only told one person because they asked and I wasn't going to lie.

Second; Something happened to me, and it kinda ****** me up. So I had some severe issues, and never dealt with them. So cutting was my way of coping.

So, I'm 18, been cutting since I was 13, no one knew, suspected, anything. I tried quitting, but the feelings got worse (I get depressed, suicidal etc)

So cutting was the only thing that gave me relief, A couple other things did, but as soon as I started loving it/them whatever, something would happen and I'd lose that outlet. Well recently I was writing, because thats also something that semi helps, well i was writing in my note book, that I always have with me because I dont want people to read it, just writing how I felt, well it fell out of my back pack and someone found it.

They are making me talk to a counselor and made me promise I wont cut anymore, but recently it's take everything in me not to reach for a blade. I can't because I won't break a promise I make, but I dont know what else I can do? I dont really like being around people my age, I work a lot and am pretty shy so I dont really have friends, I tried drawing but people just tell me my drawings are gross/mentally wrong when they see them, is there anything I can do that will help me get some of these feelings out besides cutting?

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  • 7 years ago
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    Exercising helped me a lot. I used to cut for 3 years,not as much as you but i can relate. It takes A LOT of effort but you can do it. Recovery is possible.

    The first thing you should do is get rid of your blades. Get them with you in a bag,go out and throw them in a public trash can or something. Force yourself to do it. Blades/knives might seem like theyre your best friend after all this time,but theyre really your worst enemy.

    I understand that cutting does give you relief,but in the end,does it solve your problems? No,if anything,it makes things worse because youre harming yourself. There are other methods of coping with pain.

    You really should talk about your problems. It doesnt have to be to friends,say it out loud to yourself clearly. Write down EVERYTHING you feel and tear the paper into pieces afterwards. And about drawing,what you draw is none of other peoples damn business. Express what you feel in whatever way you want,if youre uncomfortable then dont show it to them..some people are just close minded.

    There are many methods online to stop cutting,you can take a red pen and draw lines whenever you feel like cutting.Theres also the butterfly method,which is my personal favorite.When you have the urge to cut, draw a butterfly where you want to harm yourself and name it after a loved one, or someone that wants you to get better. If you cut, the butterfly dies. You have to wash it off. If it wears off (and you didn't cut), it is released into the wild to be free.Sometimes,its not really about the methods,but about the way you think of cutting.Would you cut a crying baby to relieve it from its pain? Would you cut someone you love to help them? Would you cut your 9 year old self if was standing infront of you? Would you? I really dont think so,please try and change the way you think of it.My psychiatrist told me that recovery from cutting is the hardest thing,if you can do it you have passed the worst psychological challenge. And if i can do it,im sure you can too.Dont lose hope,a lot of people out there would support you. It took me a full year two get over it,but its the best and scariest decision i ever made.

  • Anonymous
    7 years ago

    It sounds like you are in distress right now and it is wise of you to be looking for some advice. It is difficult to discuss our feelings but it sounds like some therapy or counseling could really ease some of your anxiety. If you are able to get in to some counseling work really hard to be open and honest so that you can get the best treatment possible. In the mean time continue to work on new coping skills so that you can find a more constructive way to deal with your feelings. Some good coping methods are exercising, listening to music, or watching a good movie. If you would feel more comfortable talking to someone over the phone you could call a crisis hot line and speak to a crisis counselor.

    JS, Counselor

    Source(s): Boys Town National Hotline 1-800-448-3000, www.yourlifeyourvoice.org
  • Anonymous
    7 years ago

    Yeah cutting is a serious matter

    Talk to the counselor it can only help

    They have resources at school because you're not the only person who cuts

    You have to trust people to help you that's the key

    I heard Dialectical Behavior Therapy is excellent in this kind of Ilness

    Good Luck

  • 7 years ago

    You could try talkig to the samaritans http://www.samaritans.org/how-we-can-help-you it's confidential and it can help to talk to someone about your problems. I have self harmed and I kept it to myself which is the worse thing you can do.

    Good luck.

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  • 7 years ago

    i do not know what to say but i just wanted to give you some encouragement ..good luck .. im not sure if it will help but you can try exersize .. it has helped me when things dont feel right

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