I want to cut my father and my sister's out of my life, but this is a big decision?

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Well, my father isn't a bad person and he's apologized to me many times and I forgave him, but as I'm getting older I'm starting to get angry at things and I hate being in contact with them.

My father wanted to abort me as a baby and since my mom refused he left her and I've only met him twice. When I was 12 I searched all over until I found him and he got in contact with me and apologized.

Okay...well I hate my sisters. They're on his side and I've never met them but I'm in contact with them too. They're dim witted idiots who make me sad that I'm related to them. I just don't like that side of my family...and recently I made the big mistake of asking my dad for money for some clothes because I have none and he ignored me and hasn't talked to me since which was months ago.

I just would feel better if I acted like this never happened. Yes I'm 17 now and I've known them for a while but I'm angry for some reason. I want to delete them from my facebook and ignore all their messages (They don't send me any anyways).

Should I?

Anonymous · Answer

Well, you could delete them on your facebook. But I feel you should wait longer. Cutting someone out of your life is a huge deal. Although you barely know them (it seems) they could end being all you have in the future. At the very least if you cut them out, keep a phone number or address. OR you could renovate your entire relationship with them and start completely fresh. Maybe they're not the people you think they are.
I know how it feels to have a parent who wanted to abort you. I was almost aborted but I ended up being adopted. I have a great relationship with my birth family even though they seem foreign to me. Relationships are the most valuable thing anyone could have. It might be worth salvaging them. Then again I really don't know how BAD the situation is.

? · Answer

Sad that you have a family who treats you like that. It is shameful and disgusting. You deserve to be part of the family since family stays what is in the family. Major decision to stop in contact with then but its ur decision. Let them taste their own medicine. Good luck I hope you find peace and happiness.

mikew19532004 · Answer

Well if they don't contact you your 1/2 way there just ignore them too.

Violet · Answer

You can answer your question by honestly answering this: Is it more painful to keep them in your life and deal with their rejection or to cut them out and move on? What would make your life better?

Anonymous · Answer

i think you should give some time to your self think deeply that what you want to do it you life you have to decide what you have to do i am also 17 i think it a age when we want thing to be the way we want but actually they are not so decide that would that i mean deleting them from your life would help you

Serene E · Answer

Sigh....they are not abusive.  Theres no rwason to.  Theyll still be in your memory and mind.    Seems stupid to me.
And cutting off contact doesnt have to be forever.  Youve ot about 80 more years to live.

OWAudrey · Answer

I think you're letting your feelings interfere with your logical side, if he apologized, he probably meant it if you were able to forgive him.

Since you only saw him twice, maybe he doesn't feel like quite a father to you and your sisters, and more like distant relatives. I'd imagine it to be a bit uncomfortable or awkward to have your biological daughter ask you for money for something as materialistic as clothes when you could've asked your mom.

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I want to cut my father and my sister's out of my life, but this is a big decision?

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