Should I tell my husband I cheated on him multiple times?

I would leave the past in the past. I understand your need to clear your conscience, but maybe do that with a trusted friend, a pastor, etc. Unloading this information on your husband just so you can feel better will be highly destructive. It's likely that it would ruin your family. If you've dealt with this and you are no longer a cheater, it doesn't seem to be relevant anymore. Can you change the past even if you wanted to with everything in you? No. So how is him knowing this information going to be useful?

Are you done with the cheating? If so, then let your guilt be your punishment. Don't punish him so you can feel better (don't be cruel on top of aduterous). Get counseling or talk to your therapst about it or whatever you need to do, but if you care ANYTHING about him, you won't confess that. He knows you cheated, and that's all he needs to know. He apparently forgave you. Don't leave him with reason to wonder what other things you've lied about.

Instead of thinking you can get past it by telling him, why not get past it by being the best wife and person you possibly can be from this point forward?

It's not about how loyal or crazy you were back then, it's about how loyal and loving you are right now. That's what releveant to him, and that's what should be relevant to you, also. As far as honesty goes: resolve to be honest with him from this point forward. Showing him and others that you can be respectful will go a lot further toward addressing your guilt than throwing more of the past at him. Continue getting the help you need, and resolve to both tell your spouse how much he means to you and communicate any major sources of dissatisfaction. Make him totally aware of any personal issue you're having right now, also. No one's perfect. Recognize that, but realize that a lot more is under your control than you first realize. Recognize the control you have over your actions, and your future.

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Part of forgiving yourself is assuring yourself that you're on a better path now. More important, showing yourself, and others, that you are.

No need to burden your husband with more of the past when you can be a better person moving forward.

Keep in your mind you've ALREADY confessed to him. You do not have to go into every tiny detain. The MOST important thing, you confessed. Now it's time for you to FREE yourself of it all. You DID what you felt you should do. Put it in the past, bury it ALL deep. Now go forward with your life. Your past WILL forever be gone, but your future still your own. You HAVE set yourself free from/by telling him. That's ALL you need to do. Now have an attitude of gratitude he forgave you & be happy with a future of loving happiness...best to you, honey...:)

Yes. Marriage is a partnership so telling yourself that you should keep it from him because you don't want to lose him or don't want to hurt him is BS. That's leaving the relationship in your hands. If you have been unfaithful, it should be his decision to stay with you, leave you, forgive you etc.

seems as tho you want to tell him because the guilt is painful for you.

what good does it do him to tell him? you told him you confessed to everything and now you are going to drop more on him and how is he to believe there is not more coming?

This is all about you not wanting to experience pain from your actions? If you love the guy, keep quiet about all this and suffer in silence. get some counseling,

Honey it's in the past leave it there it will do no good to ruin your family. time to forgive yourself. He knows you cheated leave it at that

You will hurt a lot of people which include your kids is it worth turning there world upside down is it fair to them welcome to the real world people do a lot things simply because it was the best decision not because it was the right thing just the best thing.

Are you still cheating on him? If so stop if not learn from your mistakes and never cheat again. You for the most part told him you cheated which he accepted and stayed with you. It might be best to leave it in the past and do whatever it takes to make things right with him.

Yes. He deserves the truth.