My girlfriend was molested by her father and I'm having trouble coping with it. What do I do?

make her feel weak or alone and she's dead. I was abused as a child and talking about it is hard. The best thing for me was just hugs, not sex, being touched without being scared is the best feeling for a survivor and it helps her heal sexually, however if thats how her dad loured her into "Games" build up to it, a suden hug could make her think her dads there again. Make her feel safe but let her have her space. If you're invited over make sure she's closer to the door than you are if you can, she doesn't know if you're gonna betray her like her father did so let her have a way out. If she trusts you enough to say something, she likes you alot. So, let let talk and you need to listen. If she asks for sex, say yes, ! she wants to finish a healing prosses by letting someone become intimate with her 2 it's sex, enogh said. Just don't ask for it before she comes onto you first.

That sounds like a made-up story that she invented to keep your way from her actual boyfriend or husband.

I'm assuming she's dating or married to somebody who is never home, but when he comes home then she obviously can't have you over because he would realize she was cheating on him.

I REPEAT: I don't think that the guy in her house is actually her dad. And I'm almost NEVER wrong.

You may want to hire a private investigator or at the very least google her address to see if her fathers name owns the house

It's unfortunate that she is now an adult because if she were underage you could call child protective services. You could take a chance and call the adult protective services in your state and tell them your story, ask what, if anything, could be done to help her. Ultimately, in order to get help, she's going to have to tell someone besides you the truth. But she may need help to get away from him.

One thing I would do is make it clear to her that you are concerned for her safety, and also stop your physical relationship until this is resolved. She's too vulnerable now to be in an adult relationship with anyone.

She needs to get away from him. That's the only way. She needs to get up the courage to leave and not let him keep power over her like that. Don't just be a bystander in this, please!! Help her. Offer her to move in if necessary. Just do something!

Let her know you love her and your there for her and if it's possible maybe you can offer her to live with you to get her away from him and protect her

Let her know how you feel, you're her boyfriend, right now you're the important man to her, she must have sense, just help her find it.

Move her in with you. She is grown. When he's out working pack up her stuff and leave. Especially if he has no idea where you live

Call the cops on him! If she gets mad at you, then obviously she is ungrateful and you shouldn't be with her.

If you can't accept it, then move on, honestly. This is not going to go away.

Ask her to marry you or move in with you otherwise it is none of your business. If you want to protect her protect her.