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? asked in Family & RelationshipsWeddings · 6 years ago

Is a plus 1 implied on a wedding invite?

I was invited to a friend's wedding in LA. I live in NY. Invite just said "you are invited" as opposed to "you and a guest". I want to go, I love this couple but I'd rather not attend by myself. Currently single. I have another friend in LA id love to bring. Is it appropriate to ask the couple if I can bring a guest or is that rude? I know it's expensive for each guest so I don't want to put them in an awkward position. Is a plus 1 usually implied even if it's not specified? Thanks.

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  • No, a plus one is NEVER implied on a wedding invite - if yours was the only name on the invitation and if there was no "plus one" or "and guest" then you have been invited alone. Yes, it would be rude of you to ask the couple whether you can bring a guest (the answer will be no anyway). What is so wrong with attending alone? I'm sure that there will be other friends of yours in attendance and, if not, there will be plenty of people for you to meet and mingle with. If you are that uncomfortable attending alone, you should save yourself some trouble and decline the invitation.

  • ?
    Lv 5
    6 years ago

    As many others have already pointed out, a plus one is not implied unless the invitation says "and guest". As a person who paid for just about all of my own wedding, I am not of the opinion that couples do this because they think the wedding is all about them and nobody else. They have to do it to stay within a budget.

    I don't know that I'd go so far as to say that asking to bring a guest is rude...but personally I would not do it. The person who suggested asking to bring your friend just to the ceremony had a good idea. Or maybe ask the couple if your friend could come and join you for dancing after the meal is over. Who knows, maybe they will say go ahead and bring him to the reception. If they don't, at least you wouldn't have to be alone the whole time.

  • There is no implied 'plus one' in ANY wedding invite...If it's addressed just to you, then it's just for you...no plus one.

    To bring a guest that has not been invited is rude...to ask if one can bring a guest is also rude. Either go alone as invited or do not go at all. Those are your choices.

  • Paula
    Lv 7
    6 years ago

    A plus 1 is never implied. If they wanted to allow a +1 the invitation would have said so.

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  • Faith
    Lv 6
    6 years ago

    No it is not. Unless the invitation specifically states Plus One or And Guest then you DO NOT bring one.

    Nor invite one. You can, if you are very good friends with the hosting couple, ask if you can bring a plus one but generally that's a no.

    Just suck it up, put your big girl panties on and attend alone and make some new friends. It's not that hard.

  • lola
    Lv 6
    6 years ago

    No, a Plus One is NEVER implied on an invitation. If the invite was only addressed to you, you are not to bring a guest.

    It's also considered incredibly tacky to ask the bride and groom for permission to bring a guest. They've already extended an invite to you, and that was gracious of them. One does not repay their generosity by asking for more.

  • 6 years ago

    You were invited by yourself.

    You are correct in assuming it would be rude to ask for another guest to be invited so you could have someone you know with whom to sit. If you cannot conduct yourself as an adult and be social with other guests for a few hours, that's a shame. Most adults are capable of doing so, especially if they can make it from point A to point B on a plane. you'll be in a crowd of people who all care about the same people. You should have more than enough to talk about. Do not ask if you can bring a friend.

  • 6 years ago

    Nothing is implied. If you are able to bring someone with you then the invite will say plus one or and guest or something, If it says You are invited it means that YOU and only you are invited It is so very wrong to just assume and bring someone with you there might not be a seat or a meal for them. the bride and groom have to pay by the head for each person in attendance with times being as they are few people have enough money to invite everyone they might like and to let those people all bring a guest. do not embarrass the bride and groom or yourself and especially your guest by bringing some uninvited someone along with you and please DO NOT ASK that is beyond rude and it puts the bride on the spot when she might not have money to pay for a meal for your unexpected and uninvited guest

  • Blunt
    Lv 7
    6 years ago

    No, it is NOT implied. The invitation clearly states that only you are invited to attend solo.

    No, it is not appropriate to ask the couple for more invitations, it is very rude.

    Weddings are expensive and people don't want strangers at their weddings,. If you don't feel like going alone, then decline the invitation.

    Good luck

  • Poodie
    Lv 7
    6 years ago

    No, it's not implied, and yes it's rude to ask. I understand not wanting to go alone, but will you know anyone else at the wedding? They'll probably seat you with them if so.

    If it's too much for you, simply decline the invitation.

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