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Did I upstage the bride at my childhood friend's wedding?
My friends wedding was a little over a week ago. The event took place in the evening and was extremely formal, just about all the women attending wore floor length gowns and men wore tuxes.
I've known the groom for seventeen years, he's 5 years older than I am. I've never in my life been attracted to him. That being said although I'm only 21, I'm engaged to my fiance - I've been with him for the past 6.5 years -- we're getting married after I finish graduate school.
The only reason I feel the need to mention this is because some of my friends thought maybe the bride accused me of trying to upstage her because she thought I wanted to impress the groom, although my friends, my boyfriend, the groom himself, and I know that would never be the case.
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^ Is the dress I wore, the only differences are it was in a deep cranberry red color and the sleeves were full. I left my long black hair down and curled it -- the curls reached my lower back. I kept my makeup simple.
The bride wore a beautiful cream colored mermaid wedding dress and her blonde/light brown hair was in some type of elegant bun. Both her hair and makeup were professionally done.
Was my dress too much? I thought maybe she thought it was a bit too risque, but once I arrived I realized many women were wearing similar dresses in terms of how revealing they were.
Sorry there's a bit more. Anyway, I tried confronting her and asking her why she's accusing me of upstaging her. She didn't give me a real answer. No one mistook me for the bride. I didn't act out or misbehave. I did receive a lot of compliments, but so did a lot of other girls and the bride received many compliments as well. I'm not too bent out of shape about this, but now I'm curious, to outsiders, does it seem like I tried to upstage her?
a mutual friend of the bride just told me it was because the groom gave my fiancee a lecture about how he's lucky to be engaged to me etc. I shouldn't have confronted her about it, but I'm not one to let people make accusations/talk smack about me. I sound like a brat, but after figuring out the reason, I don't feel bad at all anymore and I think she's acting like an overgrown child. Being a bride doesn't give her the right to act like a jealous twit over something so trivial.
10 Answers
- 6 years agoFavorite Answer
It seems like she could be jealous of your friendship with her husband-- and that's why she accused you of trying to upstage her.
- TaraLv 76 years ago
It depends on how formal the wedding actually was -- and compared to what the other guests wore. If all the other guests dressed less formal than you -- then you may have been bit too formal (like a bride's made .. or bride).
For some reason - maybe the bride thought you out-shown her that day.
- 6 years ago
There are a lot of trolls here. The dress is lovely its good for someone your age. Since other women wore floor length dresses yours wasnt a problem. The only thing that concerns me is the back is very revealing but since your hair is long and you left it down its not a big deal. I wouldnt worry too much about it since the bride didn't give you a straight answer. Like someone said sometimes brides can be a bit oversensitive.
- harperLv 46 years ago
For a formal affair like the wedding you just described, I think that dress is beautiful and perfectly appropriate. IF the bride actually made any comments about the dress and/or you trying to impress the groom, then I feel very sorry for her. Its gotta be bad karma to be so judgemental and petty on what should be the most special day of her life.
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- digimuttLv 76 years ago
If you didn't upstage her it is not because you did not give it a real hard try. Why would you wear this to a wedding? It looks more like a bridesmaid's dress. You knew exactly what you were doing when you showed up in that dress. Everyone else knows what you were trying to do as well Shame on you
- KellyLv 76 years ago
There was 2 mistakes you made -
Color of dress - kind of a faux pas to wear red to a wedding. Red is an attention getting color.
Confronting someone - that wasn't necessary.
I think the illusion of the sheerness is what people had their panties in a bunch over.
The dress overall fit the formality because it sounds like it was a black tie wedding.
- ?Lv 76 years ago
Maybe you don't normally dress very nicely, so the sudden dramatic change in your appearance seemed desperate or something? You say your dress was similar to all the other dresses there, so either you threw out all the stops when you normally don't, or there was something off/obnoxious about your actual behaviour at the wedding.
- ThornbergLv 66 years ago
That dress is hideous. I don't know why anyone would think you were trying to upstage anyone in that disaster.
- BluntLv 76 years ago
That is one fugly, tacky number.
Are you by any chance a gypsy traveller? Otherwise, I could not believe someone would show up in such a thing. Gross.
